I am very sad to say it but I think my grandad needs mental help. Over the past few years his behaviour has changed and he is now almost unrecognisable :-(
He will suddenly decide he has a grudge with somebody and simply stop speaking to them. He went over a year without speaking to my uncle, is hot and cold with my aunt and other uncle. It's only my mum who he hasn't fallen out with. It's my poor grandma I feel so sorry for though as she has to live with him and yet he doesn't speak one word to her for days and days on end.
I have found out today (which has made me just think "oh god it really is bad") that he is clearly paranoid as well. He snoops around the house while my grandma is out, looking for things she has hidden.... It turns out though that my uncle gave her quite a bit of money at Christmas that she did actually hide from him (he would want to spend it whereas grandma worries about money so wanted to save it for a rainy day) which she then DID hide from him. This is the only thing though, it's not like it would normally be justifiable to hunt for hidden stuff. Anyway, it was hidden in the back of her wardrobe in an old handbag, which I think just goes to show the extent of his searching.
So anyway he found it and hasn't said anything to her but told my uncle (not the one who gave the money) so gma now knows he's seen it yet he hasn't mentioned it (because he's not bloody talking to her!!)
Right, does anyone have any experience of this? Relatives becoming passive aggressive and paranoid in old age? What can we do about it?
I am so very sad by the way as this is my lovely, lovely grandad who I have always been very close to and who has always been my favourite person growing up. And now I just don't know where that kind, jolly man has gone. Really, really sad :-(