I've done it

[ThoseArentSpiritFingers]

Well sort of.

I had the thread about breaking up with the perfect guy, and I can't find it so thought I would update.

I've spent the last few days staying at my uncles flat, my mums been here with me, I've taken most of my clothes from the flat, while he's not been there, but tomorrow I'm going to have to talk to him and finalise it.

And deal with practical things.

Like joint purchases, what do we do with joint purchases? I feel bad asking for my fair share because I ended it, but at the same time, they are my things too... Like the tv and the pc are the main things. And we have some joint debts. Nothing to massive but about £1000 council tax. This comes out of y account so do I just pay that myself from now on?

Its so hard. When I was sorting my stuff from his, it was overwhelmingly hard, I had to stop and leave. It was a space that was OURS that I was having to remove myself from. I feel like the bad guy in this but it's killing me too.

Once you move out, inform the council, and tell them where you have gone. You only pay Council Tax where you are living, when you are living there. So if he's going to be there on his own, CT is payable by him alone at 75% of the standard rate (discount is for living alone). So if, like here, the year's CT is payable in 10 monthly installments, April to Jan, and is fully paid up for the year after January's payment, he may be entitled to some money back. Up to him to sort that out. (I hope my info is not out of date, so best double check)

But from your post it sounds like you might be in arrears with CT?

Yeah its arrears, so it's last years council tax that we're paying just now, so no matter what it does have to pay, and will probably take us about a year and a half to pay off.

Here is the original thread

Do you want the TV and pc? How much are they worth (2nd hand value)? If you did want them, could their value offset some of his share of the CT arrears?

Well done, OP.
Has he accepted that it's not just the one-week break he "agreed to"?

Lesser, no not yet, but that's more my fault than his, I've been sort of avoiding that issue, he's been away at his mums yesterday and last night so will have to speak to him today or tomorrow to make it offficial. I was hoping that I could avoid the words 'I want to split up' but I think I'm going to have to.

In regards to tv and stuff, tv was £400, bought last year so still pretty new, and computer was £800 and about 3 years old. I don't think we would sell them as they are both used, but I don't want to leave him without them, but I kind of want them too... But I don't want to leave him in the lurch seeing as he didn't want any of these changes. Or should I be thinking a bit more selfishly about things like this now?

I wasn't thinking of you selling them, but agreeing a value. Say you decide computer is now worth £400, then if he keeps it, he gives you £200. Etc.

Ah ok Pussycat, that makes sense, sorry misread that haha.

I feel bad about the money things that the break up will cause because he pretty skint, but then again, so am I, so its not like I've done it for my financial gain IYKWIM?