My three children spend every other weekend with their Dad, but dd who is 15 next month has more or less stopped going. She says that he is more interested in spending time with the boys, they watch football on the tv all the time, and she feels left out. She now has a job on a Saturday afternoon, giving out flyers round town for an under 18's night at a local nightclub for which she gets paid a fiver and after that , she goes and blows her wages on crap, bits of make up and jewellery etc which is to me perfectly acceptable behaviour for a girl of her age!! I am concerned that the longer her and her Dad go without spending any time together the harder it will get for them to get together. Hate the bastard myself but don't want them to loose touch. So I've been nagging her a bit about going up at weekends even if she feels that there is nothing for her to do. Got down to be using the very unfair line 'I wish my Dad was alive then I could go and see him' (emotional blackmail but in a good cause, I feel) so she has asked him can she stay this weekend. He has said that as long as she is doing this job, she can't spend weekends with him, if she is with him, she is with him not working, she can't do both. Her getting this fiver is a bit of a godsend to me,as it may not seem a lot, but it stops her pestering me for a fiver to go into town every week and I don't have that sort of money spare to give her. She also gets free entry and free drinks at the under 18's night, which is the equivalent of another fiver. And of course she enjoys doing it, I'm not going to tell her to give it up. He will not discuss this with me, I have tried. He says that its all or nothing. She either spends the whole weekend with him or she can't go. And its me that is more worked up about this than her, she is quite calm about it. I had a fantastic relationship with my Dad, and dd and her Dad got on so well when she was young, I want her to have the same kind of thing with him (bastard tho he may be!). Any brilliant ideas?