Utterly devastated at being dumped for the first time at 27 and 3 quarters :-(

[yelnats]

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Hey there, you have to go through the grieving process of the relationship ending, once you are over that period could take anything from a week to years, you will start to feel better.

What is your situation? Were you living together? Have you got some good friends? X

And I don't know how to deal with it. I separated from an ex last summer who I had been with for over 10years, started seeing dp, he was a good friend previously but we got closer and became an item. Now he's gone and dumped me and I am completely heartbroken. I've genuinely never been the one who got dumped before, it's always been my decision. Not that I've had many relationships, just ex of 10 years and boyfriends when I was at school but nothing serious.

I have an actual ache in my heart, never thought I could feel so much pain over a man :-(

It's a cliche, but time will be your friend.

And don't mope or beg. Distract yourself with friends and family, and a bit of doing what YOU want for a little while.

It's shit, but you will get over it

We weren't living together, i live alone with my kids. To be honest we probably wouldn't have lived together for a while yet. That's part of the reason I can't understand why I feel do awful about it.

You are/were in love, its natural to feel so bad, but time is a great healer, is there no chance of a reconciliation?

I don't know, I've asked him if we can speak. Right now we're only communicating by text which is no good at all. He's said we can but not tonight because he feels we need time or we will end up arguing, we never ever argue so I don't know why he's even saying that. My heart is actually aching, I've never felt this before and can't get him out of my head. I've spent the whole day with my head up my arse, my poor kids must be wondering what's going on.

Why did he dump you? Did you realise he wasn't happy? Did you know things weren't going well?

Odd though that your initial focus is the fact that he dumped you - and that's the first time it's happened to you. Rather than the fact that the relationship ended.

Sorry but from my cynical perspective, if he's making excuses not to see you to talk he's stalling.

Texting while emotional is always going to end in disaster. Maybe a complete break for both of you?? for a little while at least.

Take some time out and concentrate on you and DC. You have come out of a long relationship not so long ago, maybe you need some time just you and DC??