Am I being unreasonable

[GingerPCatt]

My h is very active in sports and prechild he would go to the gym two or three nights a week and for a couple of hours on the weekend. He'd also go hiking all day occasionally on the weekends. Now its nearly every weekend. I'm more of a home body and prechild it didn't bother me.
Now with a baby he still keeps this schedule up. Am I being unreasonable for wanting him to spend more time with me and the babe? I've struggled with pnd and I find being home with only the babe for company difficult. We do some mother and baby activities but since we've just moved I dont really know people at the classes yet. It also pisses me off the he's out having a fun day at the weekend and I'm stuck looking after the babe (I love him but would like a day off occasionally) and doing chores around the house. I know being active is important to him, but I need more time and support. Thanks for letting me vent.

Does he know you feel like this? If he was hiking occasionally before why he is suddenly doing it every weekend?
Can you sit him down and discuss it with him - maybe suggest it's every other weekend or one weekend in three. He could always look after your baby while you have some time out too.

You can't do everything. If he hasn't realised you need more support, tell him and make sure you do get it!

Thanks for the support we had a long talk last night with load of tears (mine). We came to a compromise and we'll see if that works. Between my Pnd and him being under a lot of stress at his new job and the baby not sleeping we were both falling apart. Now at least we're falling together. Thanks for letting me vent.

Ah but don't be hoodwinked by him saying he's under stress so needs to go do what he's doing OP. He needs to put you and the baby first! He's walking out of the door a lot and being selfish.

Ask him to have the baby whilst YOU go and do something just for you also.

Thats a compromise in my book.

Agree with mojito- you are both under stress, you are both experiencing huge lifestyle changes. You still need to be you, too, not only a mother or a wife.