tantric sex - spirituality - labour

[cantreachmytoes]

Am reposting this from where I originally put it in 'religion/spirituality/philosophy"

I'm wondering if anybody out there has experience with tantric sex and has an experience in labour that brought you close to, or to, the same 'place'. In my labour I went somewhere amazing (drug free!) and I would describe it as a spiritual experience. I have since been wondering if it's possible to get back there, because if it is, it would be incredible. The only thing I can think that might get close is tantric sex.

Anybody know anything about this or can direct me to any books?

I experienced something similar which I can only describe as being in and out of my body simultaneously, an connectedness with the infinte, an intense sense of purpose and fulfilment simply by being.

I was on a high for months afterwards and can still conjure up the feeling which cannot be compared to any pharmaceutically created high I've experienced.

I often find myself in this 'other place' when practising zazen meditation.

However, the thought of Sting strumming his mandolin while I mumsnet through hours of tantric sex does not float my boat.

Bloody Sting! Forget him. Think of this though, if you could be in that 'place' AND be in it with your partner AND physically orgasm, wouldn't that be amazing?!

I too can get back to it by breathing a couple of breaths the way I did in labour. It's wonderful! Off to look up zazem, because the high and ability to get back to that 'place' is just beginning to wane and I don't want to lose it.

Wondering if there are any tantric masters on mumsnet...

Me and the man I am still with used to have the most fantastic tantric experiences, really floated out of my body, until he stupidly burst the magic by screwing a 'friend' of mine.
Since then I just can't get back to what we had.
He is so sorry - but aren't they all.
Our connection was so close that I felt him screwing the skank from thousands of miles away - the necklace he had given me was irritating my neck and I thought, 'he's doing that skank', sent him an email, asked him, and he admitted it, after trying to lie his way out of it.
I reckon it was our tantric connection that 'told' me he was playing away.
Things have never been the same since.
Stupid men and their cocks.
Sorry, bit tigressive there.

Good post.

I enjoy 'being there' on my own but I'm always happy in my own company

As for tantric masters on mumsnet, I suggest you post your request on AIBU tomorrow night - that should prove to be a fast thread track to enlightenment

BTW it's zazeN, also known as the 'sitting meditation' - I wouldn't want to think of you za za za zemming or zooming around a parellel universe without a guide for the sake of a misspelled word.

Not sure about the sex thing but agree meditation is fab for this. I'm a developing medium and we often go into deep meditation before we start our class. Not saying you have to want to link with spirit though

BayPolar not sure how you can ever forgive that? Why do they do that when what they have is so good? Egotistical selfish xxxxx Didn't want to bring the spiritual vibe down by swearing

I don't think I can forgive it - even 4 years down the line - and am about to decide whether to go it alone (I am retiring forever at age 43 next month, have a boat, want to sail the world), or stay with him, travel the world with him, but have this niggling resentment and constant worry with me.
He says, 'it was four years ago and I'm sorry!' but it was a catalyst for so much rubbish since then, me being unable to get over it, tainting times that should have and could have been 200% dreamy, like a rolling stone gathering dog poo all the time, that really, I am sitting on the fence regarding whether to join forces with a man who says he loves me heaps, or go it alone.
It's a huge decision I have to make.
Sorry for the digression.
By the way, there aren't many men out there who take the time to get to know themselves in a tantric way, it's just the usual grunt and cum, so I doubt that I'd ever fall in love again, not like I did with this guy - stupid man for screwing with such a wonderful love we had.
Sigh.
Sorry.
Just needed to vent.

Do us all a favour and take him with you, Bay, as lots of murders accidents happen at sea. There won't be much you can do to summons rapid assistance if he falls overboard mid-ocean and, as he's unlikely to be washed up on any shore, it'll be your word against no-one who can disprove it.

Ohhhhh - Wow Man!

:0 :0 :0

Just... er... sounds... jut sooooooo... fab!!!!

Erm..... are we on the same planet?

I love sex - but it's sex. OK, some is good and some is bad - but it's sex at the end of the day.

I think he'd push me overboard first.
;)
The rows that sailing couples have are just hilarious - after the fact.

Read "Intimate Communion" by David Deida. A good place to start, imo.

Is that how it is in your household, busy? I prefer mine at any time but particularly at bedtime

In that case, drug and rope him as soon as you've set sail - and keep him tied up drugged until you're mid-Atlantic or, preferably, Pacific. Bay

Wants to know what happens during sex with sting tantric sex

DP plays guitar beautifully so am halfway there

As far I can tantrically make out, it seems to be a load of old mandolins, Sir Sugar, and I can only assume that they resonate more harmoniously in Sting's Elizabethan manor than my own more modest baronial hall.

If I were you, I'd stick to your dh's slide guitar

Don't know why I hold this opinion as I've practiced yoga for years but in my opinion things like that (spirituality) should never be forced. Its not like going to Alton Towers. The desire/need to maintain a natural high can be dangerous. If it happens spontaneously during periods of your life then thats great but to attempt to force yourself back there is on a par with always needing to be drunk or stoned or happy. Look at the repercussions in our 'we must always be happy otherwise it means something is wrong' society - a great many people think they're depressed when in reality they're just decompressing going through a winter phase etc.

Think on the experience and marvel at what it might have been and perhaps why it occurred but try not to wish it back again. Personally i say life is for living death is for the spiritual.

BayPolar run sail for the hills oceans that sounds absolutely idylic sans him You'll meet so many interesting people. He sounds so disrespectful. Time doesn't heal this sort of shit. Some say it does but I couldn't forgive that, worse that it was your friend!