You know that saying "so and so bored me to tears" - well that actually happened to me yesterday.

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Someone who I simply cannot cut ties with, and who (I am coming to realise) might possibly have a slight disorder with regard to picking up clues or sensing what other people want to happen, quite literally has the ability to bore me to tears. I find it so frustrating that I cannot get away from her, so guilty, and a bit pathetic about it all really. Have very conflicting feelings about this person. Oh I don't know, am just venting and rambling.

bibbity, you're TOO NICE. It isn't going to kill this person if you cut them out/reduce contact. Life's too short!

If you can't sever the tie forever, simply cut down the amount of time you spend with them to the minimum and regard it as chalking up good karma an excercise in self-control if you manage to endure it without displaying any sign of boredom at being in their tedious company.

Please may I steal "chalking up good karma"? I can repeat it to myself whenever I need to do anything tedious or unpleasant.

Not that I actually believe in karma, as such, but little phrases like that I find very helpful for getting through the crap times.

Like "if winter comes, can spring be far behind" and various others. Cliches to some, often a lifeline to me.

Oh bib. That's shit.
I was coming on to tell take if enforced star wars movie session in german once. But that's not as bad.

Meet up with them when you have something organised for later, that cannot be changed? It would mean the end was in sight for each meeting! My mum did this with an emotional vampire of a friend - she seemed to suck the joy from a room... So mum would meet her an hour before going to the dentists, doctors, during lunchtime at work, when she had to come and pick up us kids! Occasionally, if there was absolutely no escape, we had an arrangement to call her and fake a minor emergency. Usually something like younger db crying and not stopping so needing his mum, or have you forgotten about MIL phoning tonight, or something like that.

That's if you really really really can't cut ties. Hopefully you'll not be such a good audience, and they'll find a new victim friend!

My sister once almost bored me to tears quite literally. I was down that day anyway and rather "touchy". Anyway she was 15 at the time and started telling me about a new "retro" game console she'd just bought. I replied with something like "oh, cool" with a smile - well that was all she needed to launch into an hours long tirade (no exaguration, I timed it) about retro games, sonic the hedgehog, the year sonic was made, how sonic has changed through the years, the last sonic that came out, the amount of copies sonic has sold, sonic in America, sonic in Britain, Sonic in Japan - MARIO - when Mario was invented, how many copies Mario has sold, how much money Mario has generated over the years, the last Mario made to date ............... I kid you not, this went on for an hour. She did not pick up on my boredom, she didn't pick up on my lack of interest, she ignored my attempts at changing the subject - after an hour I went to the toilet, locked the door and sat there fighting back tears because the thought of going back downstairs and that conversation continuing stressed me out so much.
Not long after she was "officially" diagnosed with Aspergers.

It's not me, is it? :(

Annie.

Have just had this person on the phone again (for 45 minutes) after 45 minutes on the phone with her on Wednesday.

Am going to have to get handsets with caller id because I just cant stand this.

Oh, there's someone at the door. Got to go.

Oh, that's my mobile. Got to go.

Dc...DC? Sorry mum, dc's flooding the kitchen/vomiting/going to football. Got to go.

What's that burning? Sorry, got to go.

Practice them

soggysocks that made me and feel relieved. My ds is 9 with HFA. Just occasionally his rants about Horrid Henry, the London Underground or Lego respectively have made me feel quite desperate, especially when trying to concentrate on driving or something. And yes close to tears. Who knew this saying could actually be a true one?

My father does this. He starts a monologue and if your eyes slide away from him momentarily he says " am I boring you?"
His specialised subjects are;
The life and work of Agatha Christie.
Jack The Ripper.
International cricket.
Last nights evening meal.

I put up with it because he's my dad but my goodness it's hard

Do you have a doorbell? Once she starts off, open the door, actually physically ring the bell so she can hear it too - maybe, maybe she herself might even say 'oh there's your door, I'd best go'.
I may have used this trick in the past

I feel your pain I have an acquaintance somewhat like this the sad thing is she's ok in small doses but more often than not she'll chat on for hours while I tune out getting stressed that my children need putting to bed / feeding etc - she always seems to call at around 6 / 7 pm even though I've told her that the timing is not optimal. I think she possibly has a slight disorder too as her stories are very rambly and she often loses her thread while telling them to the point that it's really hard to follow what she's saying.