How to find a decent guy who would want a relationship with a mum of two?

[London7]

Hi, I am divorced and recently started to date again. I have had a few dates but it seems even though the guys like me, they are not ready to start a relationship with a woman who has small children. I guess one of the reasons is that there is so much choice out there? I know I have to keep looking but I am getting a bit disheartened now and worry I will not meet anybody who is willing to be with us all...Have you been in a similar situation and you did meet a good man in the end?

Plenty of us have - my girls were 11 and 13 when I met DP and his DD was only 2. We are blissfully happy :)

They are around. Sadly the one I met was very dull and I had to dispense with him - have not had an inclination to replace so far.

Am a bloke and can assure you there are thousands of decent men in London who wouldn't be at all worried about this. Some, particularly those without their own kids, would really welcome it.

As dogfish has said, there are many many thousands of decent men in London and beyond who would haven't have a problem.

But as for Some, particularly those without their own kids, would really welcome it, I feel obliged to add that some would really, really, really, welcome it - and those are the ones to stay away from.

If you have joined/intend to join any dating sites, you're best advised not to state the age or gender of your dc.

I have twin girls who were aged 9 when I met my now husband five years ago. They are out there!

I asked this question and my male single friends who had previously dated women with young children in very long term relationships said they are reluctant to do so again because there were 'more people to miss' (ie the children) if the relationship broke down, which had never occurred to me before.

What izzy said. I joined a couple of sites, and put that I had DDs on my profile. I had a fair few messages that were blatantly fishing for more info on them, rather than me.

I just leave that section blank now, then inform if and when I consider it appropriate.

i had 4 dc's aged between 6 and 11 when i met mine .. internet chat room romance.. that was 10 years ago now and still very happy together, might i add he's also 9 years younger than me .. Keep looking Mr Right is out there somewhere :)

One thing I would advise is not involving any new man with your kids for a good few months. I'm just about to move in with my GF, we both have a child each from previous marriage, and we gave it 6 months before involving them (and another 6 months to where we are now).

It's harder on you if you've invested that 6 months in the relationship and then the new man and the kids don't get along, but so much harder if it doesn't work and you have to deal with them missing the guy too.

There are many genuine men out there that could make your life complete, but finding one on a dating site ,in my opinion will be very difficult, as from what I hear from people at work & read on MN most of their profile information can be way off the mark,they are more interested in getting their leg over as quick as possible then making a quick exit to find the next vulnerable lady. I don't have a magic formula for you to find one , but wish you every success in your task.