Having a crap time lately. Death of a close relative and Unexpected PG and early termination all in the past few months.
DH went back to bed the morning I found out about the death. I organised the termination alone.
Over the weekend he decided to vanish as he couldn't cope with our teenage ds. He went to his mum and told her he didn't love me and sent a lot of nasty messages. He made himself uncontactable for all of Sunday and Monday, then sent a message saying he was coming back Monday night. I am ashamed to say that when he didn't come back and switched off his phone, I rang his mum's landline and ended up sobbing to her. She got him to come back but I am so ashamed at myself for been so week. I was hysterical. throwing up from stress or shock, I also hadn't slept for over 24 hours or eaten, I don't know. But ringing up his mum is not my normal behaviour.
He came back and said he didn't want to be with me but had no choice as I had forced him home.
He was nice last night but I think he wanted sex (he didn't get it). This morning he made threats to go again and then hugged me saying sorry.
His mum while been nice to me seems to think I need to make sure I am still up when he comes in from work and give him his dinner. I do cook but sometimes he tells me not to save him anything and he will grab something at work.
I feel like a silly weak person but I can't stand the thought of him leaving me.
I am in a mess and can't stop crying.
I can't get my head around the fact he can watch me be in such a bad place and decide that is his time to leave.
We have been together 15 years and I have supported him through loads I have also never run to a parent and told her a lot of private stuff about our relationship.
I feel like I am the topic of gossip now within his family.
I need him so much atm and he has decided he hates me and it is totally out of the blue nothing has happened for him to do this to me.