Right, apologies in advance if I rant, but just had YET another argument with DH about this, and am (as name change suggests) really getting fed up.
There has been an ongoing issue over the last couple of months about DH's friendships and social life, or more to the point, the lack thereof. He says he is really busy with work and doesn't have time to organise anything with people.
I, on the other hand, am very proactive with my friendships and probably go out once every couple of weeks, normally alternating between going out during the day when DS is at nursery (so doesn't impact DH), and going out of an evening. The evening events only ever happen with DH's prior knowledge and willingness to stay in with DS (4).
Increasingly, DH has been telling me that he resents how much I see my friends, and that he's jealous that I get to do all this "fun stuff" whilst his life is "dull" (gee, thanks, that says so much about our evenings together) and he has "nothing to look forward to".
I have tried COUNTLESS times to get him to call/text his friends and arrange to see them whenever he wants (I am more than happy to stay in with DS to enable this), but he just comes back with excuses that X is probably doing something else, and Y's wife probably won't let him out, and Z is probably going to be difficult to pin down because of his work commitments.
Tonight, he has pretty much told me that he doesn't want me going to another event in March as "it's yet another thing for you to look forward to whilst I have nothing"!!! I lost my rag with him and told him that I'm not going to be his social secretary, and that if he wants to see people, he actually has to contact them not just guess what they might say if he does 
His answer to that is that I have no idea the stress he's under and how much work he has to do and he doesn't have all day to organise things. Meanwhile, when he gets home (which, admittedly, is often late due to work), he sits on his arse in the lounge watching TV for 2 hours.
My argument is that it takes a minute, if that, to text someone, and that if he has enough time to watch TV, he has enough time to organise to go out with some friends. His argument is that the evenings are his "relaxation time" and that he should be able just to chill out.
AIBU to think that he can't have it both ways, and that he can't bitch and moan about not seeing people, take it out on me, but still not make any effort??