My dh and I have been married three years. We have a two year old son and I am twenty weeks pregnant now. We have been together seven years and in the early years he was an amazing love, lots of kissing and attention. Since our son came along we have very little time as he does not sleep well and we don't get enough time to 'make love ' so it ends up always being quick and we hot feel the need to have an orgasm. I have been advised not to have an orgasm or penetrative sex as I have had pain a nd bleeding. So now we have no time and it's all about him. I have no issue with him having an orgasm or being kinky or whatever but I just feel he is not paying me Any attention. He hardly everr initiates kissing, I think since things have been very tense he is afraid to get me too exited but that translates to cannot get him to go near me unless it is in the quick process of satisfying him. The worst part is trying to talk bout it. He thinks I am saying I don't want him to get his rocks off ao gets very defensive and tells me I am making him feel strange when actually I just want him to make me feel like more than a porn mag- he said if I was not interest that is what he would resort to! He tries to make me feel guilty for asking for some attention then turn a it around ao that I am the bad guy shaming him! I got so frustrated I yelled at him in front of ds which of course prompted him to call me selfish and now he is sleeping in the other room. He avoids talking. We seem to have a patterrn of getting along wonderfully and the. He gets super hurt or takes something the wrong way and uses it to crate a massive distance door days on end. I love him but I just feel unloved. Its not that he's not a good husband and father as he is, does load of housework and cooks and all sorts. It's just that he is emotionally shut down and Wong talk about sex. I had many more relationships than him and find it easy to broach but he is crippled by it and just gets defensive. Please don't say leave him as no intention or go to relate as done that twice. Once to get OCR termination which he blamed me for-was my choice and once because he has feud with brother. He is not the therapy kind tbh. Some idiot psychologist once told him he is evolved and he believed her. He can talk the talk in the zen way but in actual fact he is deeply insecure and has big father issues which he won't admit to. And no he won't go to therapy either! Anyhow I now feel really lonely and sad and desperately unfulfilled and confus and it is the last thing I need as off work due to pregnancy scares and awaiting twenty week scan Wednesday. Help.