Yet another online dating one - is he waiting for me to arrange a meet?

[YellowNails]

Got talking to a guy a few weeks back who seemed really nice. We exchanged numbers and have text each other back and forth, not obsessively but like you would a good friend I suppose. Most days. Anyway he stopped texting me at one point so I assumed he was cooling off. I left him be and within a couple of days he text me again and has done randomly ever since. They're not as "nice" as they were but still the odd kiss in there and suggestions about us meeting at some point without actually coming out and saying that. My issue with it now is that it's been 3 weeks and still no mention of meeting. If he just wasn't interested anymore I would accept that but he keeps suggesting that he is. I don't want to continue this texting back and forth indefinately. I didn't join dating sites to aquire new texting friends! Is he waiting for me to suggest meeting or should just write him off as a timewaster?

Two options here.

1. You can subscribe to the theory that men who want to go out with you make it happen and therefore write him off as someone who is decidedly luke warm in their interest. Onwards and upwards.

Or 2) You can force the issue and initiate plans yourself.

It's up to you. I don't think either option is wrong. How much do you want to go out with him?

Hi YellowNails ,It does appear that he is not very keen to ask you out anytime soon if he is just suggesting that you may at some point. IYSWIM especialy as you are on a dating site, Is he local to where you live ? Maybe distance has put him off. Try giving him a day you are free for a coffee or meet up just to see what reaction you get. If he hesitates i would say forget him & move on.

I think he's keeping you in the pending tray. I think when he went off for a couple of days he may have had a date of some description. Ask him out if you want to! But you deserve to be a bit chased and woo-ed, don't you?

NEXT!

Yes, he's keeping you pending.

It can be worth asking someone out, if you have met them in RL/have a reason to think you are highly compatible, but it sounds like you may be one of many. I wouldn't bother asking him in this situation.

He's just not that into you.

He's either in a relationship and using you to have a bit of fun on the side, so to speak, or he's put you on his back burner, honey.

Either way, stick him in your pending tray and look around for guys who believe that actions speak louder than words in so far as initial meet-ups are concerned.

Oh fgs.

Why oh why do females over think these things!? If you want to meet up with him initiate it! What's the point in second guessing every aspect of this when your answer is but one question away!!!