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Am taking my anger at my freezer mum out on DH

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lolaflores · 22/01/2012 09:06

that is what has occured to me last night. I am going through some health probs at the moments. should be resolved in the fullness of time, nothing terminal, but have over the months become house bound. my mother,despite living 15minuts walk away rises above the whole mess and actively avoids me. Meanwhwiles, she is camped over at my sisters place, creating imaginary illnesses and scenarios. Sister is 5 months pregnant, tired, the usual.
So, now I have a chest infection, feel double shit and husband is not one of life's fuzzy cuddly types (unless pissed) and I have lost it with him. I want to be cared for, but I just end up with scraps of stuff. No one cares. I am sat here alone on a sunday morning, he is upstairs with a head full of hangover. i hate him and I hate this half life I am living. I can't put on a face anymore.

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neuroticmumof3 · 22/01/2012 11:15

don't really know what to say but didn't want to read and run. i'm sorry you're having such a miserable time of it. your mum sounds vile - poss narc?

TubbyDuffs · 22/01/2012 11:22

It should be the other way round shouldn't it, your dh should be the one caring for you, its not your mum's job anymore... sorry.

I can understand you being pissed with her to some extent, but my wrath would be saved for Mr Hangover.

Hope you're feeling better soon, are you on antibiotics?

CailinDana · 22/01/2012 11:30

I can understand your anger at your mother - it's totally justified - but your husband actually stepped up and chose to look after you by becoming your husband, now he's just not bothering. He's just as much in the wrong as your mother is. Do you have any good friends that you could call? Is your dad around?

lolaflores · 22/01/2012 12:25

Dad dead a very long time. Mother is defo narc. Feeling a bit better. He has arisen and we have a chat. I know its not my mums job, but a tiny bit of support from her would go a long way.

Got the anti biotics and am going for a lie down. Thanks for letting me dump my misery here before tearing a fucking colossal strip offa him.

Cheers

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TubbyDuffs · 22/01/2012 16:46

Hope you're feeling much better soon.

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