How Often Do You Sleep With Partner

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We've been married about 10 years now. Have kids and a fairly good life. However we don't sleep together anymore. Have approached him many times and just get excuses. Have had problems on and off but things seem fine now.
Had an abortion at his insistence a year ago which I kinda regret, but if I hadn't don't know if we'd still be together.

Is it normal in marriages this long for sex to become sidelined?

How often do you sleep with your partner?

All responses welcomed!

Once/twice a week...

very rarely.maybe once every 6 months if i feel i should.

I think a lot of marriages do see a reduction in the amount of sex that goes on and I think that's normal - who could fill the dishwasher, go to work, take kids to after school activities, fix the shower, take the rubbish out and research mil's birthday present on line whilst as sex obsessed as most of us are in the early days of a relationship? It doesn't really matter how much you're having as long as both of you are happy - which OP doesn't seem to be the case with you. What can be a lot for one person might be the bare minimum for another. Personally I think around about twice a week is the standard for us. More is nice (and for holidays!), less is ok short-term.

you don't sleep together ?

he rejects your sexual advances ?

he coerced you into a termination ?

what are you asking ?

is this normal in marriage ?

no, it most certainly is not

Once or twice a week for us. Less if DC's ill or other life in way, but aim for it.

When the DC's were very young (had 3 of 4 and under) it was less as too too tired! But has picked up now youngest is 2.

I think our relationship is much better when we do have sex, which obviously makes you like each other more so you have more sex. Was once told that a man needs sex to feel loved, whereas a woman needs to feel loved to have sex...

once per 4-6 weeks, have had no energy or interest due to young children and demanding job, but do feel stirrings are returning.

I think ideally it should be once per week for me/us but it doesn't happen like that for us for whatever reason.

wheresmymilk, quoting crap "truisms" like that on this thread is quite inappropriate

once/twice per week. sometimes a little more if DH makes me feel a little guilty as far as i am aware, that or a bit less is normal...what you have described OP, less so.

if my DH had coerced/forced me into an abortion, im 100% sure we would no longer be in touch- much less, married. your post made me feel a little TBH so lord knows how you feel.

DH and I have sex as often as we do.

Sorry if that sounds crap but that is pretty much it in a nutshell. Sometimes we will go for longer periods without sex and other times it can be daily or more. Things like children and other commitments and tiredness all have an impact.

I do think that there are other issues in your marriage. The badgered into a termination is worrying in itself. It dosent sound healthy that you are constantly rejected and that you dont sleep together.

Usually about 3/4 times a week, unless one of us, or DD is sick. We are both quite young though, and we often prioritise sex over housework/other tasks. Who cares if the washing up gets left for the night? You only live once and I know what I would rather be doing.

In your case though do you think there is some unresolvedissues/communication due to termination.

We "sleep" together nearly every night. Suspect it would be seperate bedrooms if he snored. Relationship quality is more important.

Once or twice a week. Though we haven't actually "slept" together for 6 years. We've been married for 16 years and have DSs of 6 and almost 3.

Once it twice a week but usually instigated by me! I think DH could live without it but I couldn't

Im six months pregnant at the moment, so i want sex for 2 weeks and go off it for the next two weeks. I always sort my DH out if im not in the mood for sex. I do this obviously because i want to.

When im not pregnant, we usually have sex as much as 4 times a week. We only have one child at the moment tho, so perhaps a little easier for us to find the time.

Weve been together 5 years, and it frightens me to see people say its normal for sex to be less frequent/ non existant when you have been together X number of years. As far as im concerned, unless one of us became ill, if sex stopped there would be something very wrong. It would be the end of our marriage.

It also depends on how you define sex. In our (I avoid saying my as its both of us that make a relationship) relationship sex is not just him penetrating me. So a good blowjob or him going down on me is also sex in our minds.

I am quite the opposite to most of you ladies.

I am always pushing my DH for it and he just ignores me, turns me down or makes some excuse. its been like that for a few years now.

at one point, w were going for nearly a month without sex! But now ive managed to get him to have sex 1 a week if im lucky.

its tough when he rejects you, my DH used to do this in a real vicious way, but after lots of fights and tears, and awful words, he eventually said he isnt interested or its in his mind, he was depressed etc.
But the scars of him rejecting me are still there, so i feel for you!

Try and talk more if possible- not in the bedroom, but a neutral place!

At least twice a week (been together 13 yrs)

About once a month, sometimes less, if I'm being truthful.

But we are aware it's an issue and we have not prioritised our time together since having DSs. We are working on it being more frequent, as it's impacting how we both feel about the relationship and each other. Makes me feel down about it.