He keeps trying to stick labels on me

[PuddleDuk]

DP has been studying psychology and has since started trying to stick labels on me every 5 minutes. I tolerated it for a bit but it's literally doing my head in! he told me he thought I had social phobia when really I just like my own company (but do go out with friends a couple of times a month). He told me he thought I might have a personality disorder and now he reckons I have bi-polar disorder because sometimes I get a burst of energy and scream (I have done this all my life so now see it as normal and he has never complained before). AIBU to tell him I do support his studying but would like him to keep me out of the studies?

Tell him that its a good way of putting it, tell him to go practice his musings elsewhere.

I think it's quite common when you first start studying psychology, tell him to get it under control.

I had a friend that did this. She was studying child psychology and suddenly my children and every one of our friends children had a diagosable ishoo, and that it was all the parents (ie; our!) fault.

She stopped suggesting that our kids had problems that we should get help with when one of our friends basically said "Physician, heal thyself" :o She had a history of crap relationships with needy/fucked up/married men and our friend said that before she diagnosed other peoples kids she should look at what it was in her childhood that caused her to do that!

Tell him you think he's projecting .

Or alternatively that he's getting on your last nerve with his amateur Psychology bullshit.

Oh God I remember my fucking mother doing a degree in bullshit and we were all variously diagnosed with eating disorders and alcoholism.

Absolutely tell him to get a grip. It's annoying.

Ooooh I sometimes get a burst of energy and give a little yelp. I'm pretty sure I don't have any undiagnosed mh issues. Tell him to cut the crap

Or you ask him for how long he's been suffering from over-diagnosis disorder?

When I read your title I had a vision of you walking around with sticky labels and post-it notes all over your body

Get a nice big white label, write TWAT DISORDER SUFFERER on it and stick it on his back when he next sets off for college

Oh yeah... this was why nobody wanted to hang out with the first Psychology students in college.

Tell him to get better, fast.

My late sister did the same thing to me - just told her I wanted my sister back and if I need a Pychologist, I'd go and seek on a non family related one. It does stop - he's just using his new found knowledge..........

This must be a common phenomenon. I had an ex who was a psychiatrist and he would call me a PD ( personality disorder ) and would label me with all sorts of mental disorders in any argument we had ! He also used to use psyche speak all the time suggesting my behaviour was inappropriate and words that he would use for patients( if I for example got pissed ) I find it quite funny now to look back on but he was seriously screwed up and sadly did not recognise his own failings for he was too busy diagnosing everyone else!! Good luck....

Oh we had a father of a friend who started doing this

He could have seriously messed with our family if my parents hadn't been level-headed enough to see it was all a load of bollocks.

He DID seriously mess with another family we know by telling them they had screwed up their daughter - which was total rubbish, the parents were perfectly sweet and had always tried their best for their kids, he nearly broke their hearts by telling them that

We eventually stopped seeing the family...

EXH was like this. tell him he needs to diagnose and 'fix' all his own issues first before moving onto clients that pay for his service.

jjgirl, that is true. Counsellors (post grad psychology often) are actually expected to do that.

I knew one who was studying for a counselling diploma and first she resisted, on the grounds it wasnt necessary, and then she agreed to it, and had a nervous breakdown.

Interestingly, lots of people who work in mental health have mental -health related experience of their own, even if via a close family member eg parent. SOME, not all, people are attracted to the field because of that.

Well my mother is barking and it does astonish me that she is allowed to have clients.

My mother was in MH and she did the same for a bit. But had absolutely no insight into her own behaviour. :)

It did pass.