kids saw porn ! - help

[pgpornstar]

I came home from school run and mindlessly turned on the tv for the kids, porn was running- full blown action!!! i ran and turned off the tv, kids didn't see much but i am HORRIFIED!!!!!!!!!!
dp slept on sofa last night and i know he looks at porn and i don't really mind about it, i have told him before that under NO circumstances does porn ever go on the tv, if he wants to do that type of thing thats what his private laptop is for.

its happend before and we have been through arguments etc last time he was showing my dd something on his phone and something pornographic came up and he stopped it imediatly but i was well MAD at him but forgave him!!

this time it is the last straw, how can i trust him again? i am pg with his baby too

i am so paniced about social services making a visit too as if the kids saw enough to tell what it was and tell school, or their real dad that will be it!!

obviously i have changed my name for this and i am not a troll making this up for a laugh, i have been a regular poster for about a year now. i really could do with someones advice without the embarresment of calling my real life friend

annie, yes, it was based on this and more. I would say this was the reason in my mind for us separating, although in reality it was probably the catalyst.

..... just re-read the recent posts.
I wasn't suggesting the OP leave her partner, I was describing what my family have gone through and how we are dealing with it.

ty, easy to cross wires x

pg, I hope you find a positive way to work through this.

I agree with custy, just get him to make sure it is locked away, and dont make a big deal of it to the kids.

pgpornstar, when I was 9 my brother(6), sister(5) & I found a whole load of pornographic magazines dumped in a ditch by our house. We spent ages looking at them and then my father found us and in a really calm way said that they were not children's magazines and he would be putting them all in the bin as they were clearly someone's rubbish.
None of us were traumatised or thought it wa a big deal as my father was so low key about the whole thing.
Bollock your partner by all means and bar the porn channels from your tv, so it can't happen but don't make a big deal about it, otherwise your kids will think something really major happened and will talk about nothing else for weeks & weeks.

I think i was 11 when i saw my first porn mag, maybe 10

most of his porn is on his computer so getting rid of it isn't that easy, thing is even if i could locate it all he could always just download some more, i would still have to trust him that he was not going to do that and leave it playing on tv etc
i don't mind him looking at porn, i dunno why but it doesn't seem to bother me that he is getting off on other women, as they are not real women, and i know he would prefer me every night but i am not available every night for him, esp recently because am pg and last pg was mc so am laying off sex for a while.
our relationship is prob not healthy- it has been rocky for a while, i was blaming it on me being pg.

i have told him how mad i am about it, he says he's sorry. won't happen again blah blah same as what he said last time. he said he will get rid of it all too, but he has said this before too.

can he not password protect his computer to rpevent accidents like that happeneing?

There's a difference between having your stash found despite it being hidden by kids breaking the rules, and kids just turning on the TV to have it shown them. One is an unfortunate occurence, one is neglectful.

I was going to suggest that as well lou33.

Children seeing porn whether accidently or otherwise is not on. I found porn on my dp screenname which my ds aged 6 sometimes uses. I went totally and utterly ballistic at him and now he is more careful. He also had porn on his phone a while back.
He dosen't now.. I go through his phone every day to make sure. He either dosen't down load it or he deletes it.
I hate porn.. its a big bone of contention between us.

I hate porn.. its a big bone of contention between us.

pgpornstar your dp should be more careful. If it was me I'd really lay it on the line.. it's either he stays and the porn goes simple as that.. if he can't be trusted to keep it more private.

Sorry if it sounds harsh

This from Windows Help files

User accounts overview
User accounts personalize Windows for each person who is sharing a computer. You can choose your own account name, picture, and password, and choose other settings that will apply only to you. A user account gives you a personalized view of your own files, a list of favorite Web sites, and a list of recently visited Web pages. With a user account, documents you create or save are stored in your own My Documents folder, separate from the documents of others who also use the computer.

To help keep your files more secure and to help make sure they remain private, use a password for your user account. You can still mark certain items as shared if you want other people to be able to access them. If you do not use a password for your user account, other people will have access to your account and be able to see all of your folders and files.

So, just get him to set up user accounts for everyone who uses the computer. That was, only the user (with a password) and the adminstrator (whoever) has access to certain areas of the computer.

Even if you are not considering storing porn on your computer, it helps to stop little fingers from deleting critical files (e.g. your wedding photo album)

my laptop is password protected