Erotic dreams about (ex?) OH

[Punkatheart]

Those of you who know me and know my 'in limbo' situation will know that I am not a troll - but I know it is an odd title.

When OH left originally, I had desperately romantic dreams about him - where he came back, cried in my arms etc etc. I would then wake up shaking and so upset I could barely breathe.

He is now going through counselling and our contact is minimal, but friendly - almost longing (on my part at least - I cannot speak for him.) But those dreams have taken on a lurid aspect and......well...they are now deeply erotic. Again they end with us happy and reconciled - and now I am waking up feeling as if I am falling. It takes me a good hour to come to terms with it.

I am NOT going into detail - but it all feels so very real. Has anyone else had this experience? Any idea why it has taken this turn? I am curious more than anything but actually, I wish they would stop. I am getting stronger and trying to maintain an equilibrium and being left again and again - as the dreams make me feel - are knocking me for six.

Yup. Can't offer any advice though. I married my ex in the last year at uni and my life fell apart when we split up. I am remarried with kids but it is still different and I do still get the dreams sometimes. Feels very weird, almost disloyal as I do wake up wanting it all to be real, feeling again the sense of loss that it went.

So no help but just wanted to say I can relate.

Thanks using. It's really peculiar, isn't it? Our minds are strange things...

you are going through the grieving process (hugs)

Grieving process, seaofyou is right. Heartbreaking. My friend had intense, erotic dreams after her boyfriend died. Two years later, she could talk about his being dead without crying, but talking about the DREAMS would reduce her to despair.

Oh Viendo - your poor poor friend. It feels so lovely when the dream is happening and to wake up, well it feels like a little death in itself.