Internet dating/flirting

[Dotmurray]

I've been with the DP for several years and we live together but work irregular shifts. Unfortunately this means we don't get to spend much time to get intimate with eachother

His choice of shifts means I often feel seriously sexually unsatisfied and I do miss the physical relationship. I stumbled into chatting to random men on the internet in a sexual manner in order to live out fantasies. By the time I'm done I feel guilty all over. It has even led to photos being exchanged.

I know I will never meet these men or do anything with them but I do still get this feeling of guilt? Am I cheating on him? I still adore him and couldn't live without him, but I have these chemical needs I suppose. I'm choked full of hatred of myself as I write this

so many MNers post about their man doing this - now they can see it from the other side (and a woman), it's not as black/white as normally portrayed, so a useful post!
OP maybe you should up the quality and amount of sex when on weekends?

You are cheating thats why you feel guilty its wrong.

"His choice of shifts"

Is it a choice? Or is it a requirement of his job ?

Either way it speaks volumes about either you or him..

Likeatonnerofbricks the thing is we used to have a exotic sex life...we did EVERYTHING! maybe it was the fact we did it all nothing was left and the spark had gone :(

Fabbychic or fatty chic. You're not helpful and I dont think it is cheating

Sparks1 - You make a good point, he does choose them occasionally but on the whole hes asked to

Hang about Dot, Fabby was just answering your question!

If it's not cheating in your eyes then why do you feel guilt and self-hatred?

Agree with Fabby tbh, you feel you are cheating and that's why you feel guilty. Leaving aside the cheating part if you want to, if you are "choked full of hatred" like you say then why do it to yourself?

You are sharing sexual feelings with someone other than your oh. If my DH did it to me I would feel betrayed.

Dot, do you realise how nasty that sounded, when you spoke to Fabby?

She was saying you were cheating - why not ask your partner to see whether he agrees with her, eh?

I agree with Fabby

Did you not see the documentary talhotblonde? A warning if ever there was one. Also - you actually have no idea who these men are and you are sending photos? One of them could work with your hubby/live next door to you.

Oh hello troll. You are the one who has banged on about gobbling cock, every five minutes haven't you? Wank net is this way >>>

I don't often agree with Fabby, but I do on this one. Make any excuses you like, but this is cheating. If my DP was doing this, I would end the relationship.

Oh. It's a cock-gobbling troll

I'm a little bit disappointed if I'm honest.

Legobuildingpro is right. The op has been having a right laugh winding people up all over the place.

Best ignored.

I don't think I am cheating to be honest I just get lonely and bored. And they are sending me photos not me sending them photos.

T'm downloading Tall Hot Blonde.
Thanks for the pointer.

are you sure you want to be in a relationship? sounds like you haven't played the field enough!

Op is an unoriginal troll, possibly from a forum largely comprised of unfunny males.

Like Fabby said its cheating.

You ARE cheating fabby is right!
I hope you are a troll cos if not you are just taking the piss out of those of use whose relationships have been ruined by these exact actions!
you don't deserve your DP! sorry to say but there you go!