Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Original poster

Has any one ever used sim card reader to read deleted texts

17 replies

lifeshocker · 20/01/2012 18:42

Hi I have written previously about my suspicions about my husband having an affair. he only leaves his phone unattended while he sleeps and deletes all messages before hand. Have heard you can buy a reader that lets you read deleted texts, I know it sounds awful but so sure he is up to something but he denies and denies. Just need proof

OP posts:
FabbyChic · 20/01/2012 18:43

Is he out all the time, does he actually have time to have an affair?

Original poster
lifeshocker · 20/01/2012 18:49

No he never goes out but feel there is something not right will find my previous thread and attach

OP posts:
Xales · 20/01/2012 18:50

Sorry you are going through this.

Do you really need proof? If you have got to this stage, the trust is gone and he is just denying what relationship do you have left?

Original poster
lifeshocker · 20/01/2012 18:54

I know exactly what you mean but if I never get proof I will be the bit who split up the family. At the moment he tells me I need counselling to get over my paranoia. I know spying like this makes the relationship seem shit but if I don't find proof will always be left with the doubt it was all in my mind

OP posts:
Xales · 20/01/2012 18:56

They always seem to say you are the nutty paranoid one who needs help. Hmm

That sort of clinches it for me.

Good luck though Sad

Original poster
lifeshocker · 20/01/2012 19:02

I know when they get you doubting your own sanity. Oh I am really going to enjoy blowing this one apart. Sorry cant link to other thread crap with computers

OP posts:
fiveisanawfullybignumber · 20/01/2012 19:07

No, but if he has a newer smart phone try spybubble. You will need to jailbreak iPhones though, wouldn't suggest doing it on a new phone.

Itsallgonetitsup · 20/01/2012 19:21

I so know where you are coming from here.

I found a sim card just before Xmas (it has not been seen for 5 weeks now) several times but it had a pin on it so I was unable to see anything on it despite putting it in my phone. My H has a very rich history but I want questions answerd. I want to know EXACTLY whats what. I dont want to have to fill the gaps although I know what I suspect. I wont ever get the truth from him and I just NEED and WANT to know. Its probably easier to just walk away thinking - theres no trust blah de blah dump the bastard but in reality (for me) I need and want to know more.

There are loads of sim card readers on amazon and they come with reviews as well. Some were suprisingly cheap but the reviews can tell you how crap or good they are.

I have not ordered one yet as I am uncertain if they will work without the pin code I need for the Sim I have found - plus its not put in its apprearance since Christmas.

Just be carewful though when you are on Amazon and viewing these because next time ANYONE on you computer goes onto amazon it will suggest more sim card readers or put them in recently viewed. I had to post an urgent thread on how to get rid of this (the last thing I wanted to do was tip off H I had discovered his sex sim). I cannot recall how I got rid of the card readers coming up on Amazon in the end. Some one posted a link to Amazon help and I did it from there. The thread I posted in chat was before Xmas but cannot recall the date sorry - incase you wanted to search and I cannot recall the title.

Original poster
lifeshocker · 20/01/2012 19:23

Thanks it is not a nice way to be feeling I know but I think for both us the proof would be a relief x

OP posts:
jackky6891 · 22/02/2012 09:51

I was followed by a omegaspy software. I was surprised when my wife installed it on my iphone

Squirrelz · 22/02/2012 10:00

What type of phone is it, as a lot of phones now don't store texts on the SIM, or allow you to choose whether to store them in the phone's memory, or the SIM.

flywiththecrows · 22/02/2012 10:07

wow no one is safe against the technology of today! Shock

but I suppose this is exactly why this kind of software is developed - to catch out the bad 'uns.

I hope you get the answers you hope for OP :)

TooEasilyTempted · 22/02/2012 10:43

I'm with a PP who says that even if you're considering using a sim card reading and spying on your partner, then the relationship is over anyway.

What would you do if you really found absolutely nothing, but your partner found out you'd been spying on him, and ended the relationship and kicked you out because of it? 'Cos that's what I think I'd do if I found my DH spying on me.

puds11 · 22/02/2012 10:53

jackky was there good reason for her to install it?

PostBellumBugsy · 22/02/2012 11:57

lifeshocker, if your DH doesn't ever go out - what does make you think that he is having an affair? Does he work away from home alot? Things can be not right, without it being an affair.

LiarsWife · 22/02/2012 12:07

My STBXH didn't go out - he conducted his affair on work time and fly days off .. and his phone was permanently attached to his hand - he slept with it under his pillow and took it to the shower and loo with him

I was also accused of being paranoid ... until I found the card he'd written to his girlfriend and it turned out my gut feeling was right all along!!

I am most angry at myself .. for doubting my own instincts which were bang on!! Angry

LiarsWife · 22/02/2012 16:48

what I meant was if your gut instinct says something is going on - it probably is!

(sorry if I've killed your thread) Blush

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread