For some reason I signed up to get emails from a woman called Rori Raye. She is one of these relationship gurus, and my only excuse can be that I was pissed slightly merry at the time.
I thought it would all be harmless 'get the guy' type stuff. But then this arrived in my inbox
Dear Milkandlotsofwineplease,
If you've ever felt furious with a man because he just doesn't "get" why he's making you unhappy -- I can help.
Some men are actually, on purpose trying to hurt you -- because that's the only way they know to relate to a woman. But most men are just clueless. They really want to be with you.
Most men are lonely -- yes, they really are.
Most men feel awkward and less confident than you would imagine.
In fact -- most of the GOOD men out there lack confidence and feel awkward around women.
But they just cover it up with either an "I don't care" attitude, a determination to keep an emotional "distance" between you, or outright hostility!
THE BEST-KEPT SECRET ABOUT MEN
It's amazing sometimes how far a man will go to protect his own heart. And nearly the worst thing we can do is to take what he does and says and close up our own hearts in response.
The secret of all my Rori Raye tools is that they instantly help you keep your heart and your "energy field" open -- no matter WHAT he's doing or saying!
Then it goes on in a very similar manner for about 100 pages...
So basically what this is saying is that men may act like absolute cocks, but they just can't help it, and it's because really they are terrified of being hurt. Clearly it has NOTHING to do with them just being an idiot, waste of space.
So the message would seem to be that no matter how nasty a man is to you, just keep your heart 'open' and it will all be fine in the end.
It's no wonder so many women put up with utterly unsuitable men. The message that seems to always get pushed at us is that we HAVE to have a man, no matter how unworthy he may be. Argh!!
Sorry if this is in wrong section. It just made me so bloody mad I had to share it somewhere. Calms down