We have a loving, harmonious relationship more than 99% of the time. The times that have been difficult have mostly related to me doing a favour for him eg last night he went out with guys from work, we agreed that he would come back to my place afterwards (it's our usual night together as DD is at her dad's). He phoned and I offered to pick him up from the tube station as it's a 15 min walk. I picked him up about 10.45 and before we had even got home he was cross with me. The trigger was him asking me had I been for a run and I said no, I wouldn't go two nights in a row but that we could run together tonight as he wouldn't be late home.
He said that I give with one hand and take away with the other. I was not implying that I had a problem with him going out last night, we had discussed it and I encouraged him to go. However, that's how it seemed to him.
I felt that he was almost looking for a sign that I minded, he says he doesn't like asking me for anything as I seem to do it grudgingly at times.
We are both survivors of emotionally abusive relationships and are otherwise extremely happy together. I suspect this issue is more about how he feels than what I said. I'd really like to get to the root of this so we can get past it. It doesn't help that we are always at my home unless we go away for the weekend together; he shares a house on a company let and no female guests are allowed there. We would love to get a place together but it isn't possible just now.