Friends engagement

[Chillijelly]

My friend got divorced last year, their partner had been unfaithful, found out in March no dc involved at all.

It was obviously a terrible time for them and I helped through this very hard time.

Internet dating began in about August, glad to see my friend moving on and being really very positive. They started dating someone a bit more seriously at the end of September, all good sounds like they have shared interests etc. They got engaged at New Year. I have not met the new partner and I know it is up to my friend who they choose to date etc but it seems so soon. Would you be worried at all? am I just over thinking things? really would be interested in the thoughts of others.

Thanks

I'd be worried too tbh. Has she let any of her other friends meet him?

I wouldn't worry to much, it's only an engagement. Unless they are planning the worlds greatest wedding next month they probably are just a bit over excited and will either get bored of one another and split or go the distance. I know lots of people who got engaged quickly and split up just as fast, I'm the opposite, got engaged after 6 months, we married 11 years later :)

It does sound a little bit soon, and the chap may well be a rebound thing. Not a lot you can do though other than be supportive of her in general and be there for her if the pooping hits the whizzing.

Too little to go on really - sometimes you just know. A friend of mine started seeing someone at the start of August, got engaged at new year, married almost a year to the day of their first date, still together six years later and second DC on the way (did know each other for a few months before going out though). Apparently my uncle proposed to my aunt six weeks after they started going out, she made him wait until three months before accepting because she thought it was too soon :) and are still very happily married 30ish years on.

Or it could be a massive red flag!

All you can really do is be there and be supportive whatever happens.

Let the lady have a bit of a rebound! Shes clearly not afraid to jump back on the horse ;) and we all have needs.

Sounds to me like you're jealous!

Godness thanks for all the advice, I didn't specifically go in to detail but the terrible time was truly dreadful. My friend lost a huge amount of weight through stress and seemed to be suffering from anxiety or an anxiety based condition.They had been with their partner from age 20 and had been together for 20 years, it was truly devastating.

Two other friends have also broken up with long term partners over the last 5 years and they got back in to dating quite quickly, all three have internet dated but the other two were more cautious . One has remarried and seems really happy but had dated her new DH for a year before engagement.

I do really hope it works out for my friend, I am just worried. I will be there whatever happens, the good or the bad.
Thanks again

Just to add, no one has met the new partner yet in reply to FFFF. I do know that the whole story of break up etc is only known by me and one other mutual friend and he is concerned as well.