DH Leaving

[tmtch]

My DH left the family home just before Christmas, having made his wish to leave known at the beginning of December. He agrred to go to Relate once but has point blank refused to return. I am struggling to deal with my emotions let alone those of our DC. He won't talk about why and has said that if I have any questions about the breakdown of our marriage then I should email him. Should I?

Of course I extend my sympathies but I prefer the written word to talking.

It was impossible to speak to my ex. He got so emotional and wouldn't let me speak. I'd try and put my feelings in a letter and he'd ask why I couldn't just speak to him. That I struggle with it wasn't a good enough reason.

Did my ex deserve better? Maybe, but regardless of what he deserved, I didn't have it to give. I was ready to leave an unsatisfactory relationship and in looking after myself I parted saying he was free to email me and I'd reply but I wasn't willing to talk to him.

Good call OP.

Your goal now is magnificent detachment where he's concerned. Howl in private and with people who are on your side but with him? Complete contempt and the appearance that you wouldn't have him back now under any circumstances.

If you have any questions email me! Wow what a nasty bit of work!

I know you may not think it right now however I think this man has done you a huge favour leaving you, you deserve infinitely better.

I bet if you did email him you would get the typical excuses we have seen in relationships.

You didn't give him enough attention.

You didn't fold his underpants properly.

You didn't give him enough sex.

A myriad of pathetic excuses he has given himself to justify having an affair and leaving you and your children to move 100's of miles away.

It will all be you none of it will be his fault of course!

Get yourself a good lawyer, look after and love your children well and have a fantastic rest of your life. That is the best response to this man.

Thank you all. Finally got away Fri night. back later today. Am nervous about seeing DH Daft aren't I? DC not happy about me going away though, but guess I've always been the constant

Well not much more to post. had a good weekend away but came back to chaos. Homework not done, house a tip, school uniform washed (at least) but all left in an unruly pile. Sent him a text on Mon evening as one DC in supervision at school and anoither up until early hours crying for him. No response at all even though text apparently delivered. Caved in and sent email asking him how he wanted me to contact him about DC. Got one back saying he'd received no texts or voice mail and why hadn't DC rung him. I've replied saying will forward text and that DC don't want to ring as always get his voice mail. Have suggested that we ring him tomorrow at a set time and will see what happens. I hope OW isn't on this because don't want him to know about this. After all she's divorced with a DS. Maybe I've given too much info