Men and sex.........ffs...

[Pfer]

Ok, I'm knackered, been too many years without a decent sleep, I've got a head cold so feel crap. Last night was the 3rd night in a row since DH and I got jiggy and boy oh boy was he in a foul mood because of it! You'd think it'd been 3 months the way he just turned his back on me in bed, and he's got this ability to just exude bad feeling. This morning he's hardly spoken to me and gone off to work grumpy. All because I'm tired and a bit off colour.
Are all men Sh*theads when it comes to sex?

Oh, ffs! We need a sex version of the famous line, 'Only boring people are bored.'

generalizing here:
men need sex to feel loved, women need to feel loved to have sex

also if he does the dishes, that helps too

(6 months and counting btw! never underestimate the power of a handjob!!)

It's one of the world's big jokes you know.

What do you mean Easy?

i have a very low libido and it has caused a few problems . anything puts me out the mood . if we have an argument he would still want sex but i just cant . you dont want to when you argue do you ????? i cant relax with all thats going on in my life and if i am tired or had a bad day i do find it hard to relax especially since this has become a problem because now i just get tense and anxious that he will want sex if i do relax . its a vicious circle !!
might be tmi , but we had sex last sunday night and we hadnt had sex for about 4 months previous ( do have 7 month old dd3)

make him read all this because i think i will get dp too . men seem to think or believe that they arent getting enough if they havent got their leg over for a day or two.

3 TIMES A WEEK IS AVERAGE FOR A CHILDLESS COUPLE SO TELL HIM HE IS BLOODY LUCKY TO BE GETTING ANYTHING !!!!!!!!

agree totally with needing to feel loved cull

Pfer, sounds like my dh and yours have a lot in common!

I gave in the last night so am safe for a few days .

I do enjoy it when we get going, it's just being bothered to get started if you know what I mean?

def know what you mean i just love my sleep to much and when i get into bed i just am so relieved the day is over and i can get some sleep , i just think "oh no i cant go sleep yet !"

My dh gets slightly sulky if we dont do it everyday Its just what he is used to and he likes his routines.

Sometimes i will say no, that I am tired, or have a headache or whatever but he always gets his own way, he makes me laugh or tickles me til I give in. If the tickling etc fails and Im still saying no, then he sulks, knowing that I will give him a hug and say that of course i still find him attractive etc... hes so manipulative

But I do think alot of men are selfish when it comes to sex and they expect it.

I worked out that dh gets at least 65 hours sleep a week where as I get about 40
He NEVER gets up for dd in the night unless I'm already up and struggling, he NEVER, NEVER gets up to give dd breakfast wether I am ill or not, weekend or not etc, and still wakes me up when he comes to bed to ask for a ride as if I'm not woken up enough!! Then gets stroppy when I tell him where to stick it.

We have a big problem in this area. Dp wants it all the time. I prefer quality not quantity and have tried explaining this until I am blue in the face but he still wakes me up several times a night trying to have a fumble, and it drives me nuts.

We argued this morning about it. He just cannot lie with his arms round me without letting them wander and I hate it.

I told him to piss off and so he sulked.

It is so bloody childish.

Well.....One word springs to mind this morning.........W*NKER!!.

I was in bed quite early last night as was knackered, DH came to bed about an hour later, and woke me up trying to get some. I was not even awake and just kind of pushed him gently away. I then cuddled him and whilst trying to wake up stroked him etc and was generally being affectionate. He felt cold so I said 'oooooh, you're cold', and in a very sarcastic voice he said 'So are you.' Then turned away. After couple of minutes he jumped out of bed and stormed downstairs yelling 'Boll*cks to you!'. He slept on the sofa. Good job, if he'd come back up I'd've slept with the kids.

This morning I'm thinking, he's a complete tosser and even though he's being all nicey nicey trying to keep cuddling me and smiling sheepishly I'm thinking eff off!!

He's gone to work now leaving me in a foul mood for the rest of the day. Seems to think it's ok to be a shit and then expect a pathetic smile to make it all ok. It's been too many times now for this to work. Dickhead.