Relationship going stale; how can I save it?

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Name changed as I know some people on here in rl and don't want them to now about this.

I've got a lovely life with a great DH; he's fantastic in every way. But I feel so cooped up and bored. Life feels like a bit of a chore at the moment, and I've got a lot on my mind. Exams at work, a few business trips coming up, a colposcopy next month, childcare, taking regular exercise, housework... I'm so burdened down by it all that I feel like I've neglected our relationship.

DH comes to give me a cuddle and I just want to push away, like get OUT of my space and leave me ALONE. I don't feel like cuddling. Sex happens 1-2 times a week; we have a 15mo though so I think this is fairly normal?

I am aware that we've just come out of Christmas and that January is the peak time for feeling a bit shit but I know something isn't right. I feel a bit put upon if I'm honest. What can I do to freshen things up, to make me feel better?

Anyone?

Is he pulling his weight? I find that when my DH isn't then I can't be bothered with him and go into my shell a bit. It does sound like you've got a lot on. Do you feel like he's sort of just another job on your list?

Yep, he is pulling his weight; he's a great guy to be around. I do feel like he (and consequently sex) are just another task on a long to do list and that makes me feel so bad.

Okay, sounds like a good relationship... What can you cut back on to give you more together time? Can you do less gym for a few weeks or get a babysitter to take your DCs for a whole day/ evening - like a Granma or someone?

sounds like you both need time out for each other can you have a little break in your schedule.

I don't know if I'm just moaning, and it's just par for the course when you are in a long term relationship. Im not going to leave or anything like that; I'm just sick to death of stupid little arguments which blow way, way out of proportion. They happen quite frequently and easily ruin the morning/day. If we have a couple of those a week, combined with all of the above I do find myself musing over how much easier it'd be if we just lived apart.