POV online dating question

[wantanewname]

Was chatting to a guy on POV a few days ago, he seemed very keen. We chatted for a few days, then night before last he asked me a question about my job, I told him what I do (it's nothing controversial by the way, it's working for a local authority) and since then I've heard nothing. Should I assume my job put him off or just lost interest or met someone else or will still reply??? (he's been on there since and read my message).

It must be me, maybe I'm boring for working for the council, I think that too sometimes

Noo. Not you. Probably chatting to someone else as well. Internet dating is like that. Don't take it too personally. Or try not to.

Don't take it personally, thats the way online dating goes...

thanks but tis a bit of an insult though!

Just got two new messages from other people. One just said:
X
The other included:
'At the moment I spend my spare time to look after a friend. He is sick last four months. He is a professor of Bristol Uni. He has no body to look after. His parents lives in London. He is divorced last fifteen years and can't find a genuine lady. So, he is single but very kind, honest, reliable, good hearted, loyal, respectful, intellegent, genuine, loving, caring man ! SAME AS ME !!!! We know each other when I was in Uni. I don't know he likes me or not but he likes my food !'

WTF???

that last one's not normal, surely? Bit of an online dating virgin...

I'm having the same problem. Was talking to a guy, really started to like him, exchanged mobile numbers, texts up to midnight one night - next day he's gone cold and doesn't seem to want to know. However he does send the odd text here and there, presumably to let me know I'm still on standby

Okay the way that it reads doesn't sound right I think that he's probably foreign.

yes, I guess he is foreign but still an odd topic???

I'd bet money the last one's a scammer.

I suspect yon fellow is going to offer to fix you up with his mate next. Lovely guy, just needs a passport...

Or an expensive operation.

He probably is, that was my thought about it too. But also what about the one who just put X or the one who didn't answer. God, this is depressing! Not getting anywhere here

Sorry - post was a bit blunt. Stick with it. I'm coming up to 6th wedding anniversary with DH. Met on dating direct. Good luck.

This happens with online dating all the time. People vanish for all sorts of reasons. Maybe his wife discovered his profile, maybe he found someone else to chat to, maybe he was intimidated by how sorted and lovely you seemed and figured you were out of his league!

The thing is (and take it from someone who's spent far too long on dating sites for her own good) you have to develop a thick skin if you want to play this game. People will disappear. You will disappear on other people, I guarantee it. You will think you have a date set up only for that person to suddenly vanish. You will go on what you thought were two great dates and not hear a dicky bird from them again. Nobody really owes each other anything.

But just sometimes, very occasionally, it can all be worth it. There are good people online trust me. Attractive, interesting, emotionally healthy people. You've just got to find them.

Oh yes - agreed. The guy I met before DH took one look at me in RL and didn't want to continue the date. Chin up. Got to be in it to win it!

Another here who met DP on POF, we're getting married in September keep going, the right on will be along soon, you just have to find each other