How do you "get over" an argument?

[ohdearwhatdoidonow]

So my DH and I argue occasionally. Usually over something minor/miscommunication etc.

His "get over it style" is to basically get it all off his chest and that's it.

Mine takes longer, I will "fight back", get wound up, and as I hit the crescendo of my frustration or annoyance, he's over it and wants to laugh about how daft we've been, which drives me daft!!

We both get there eventually - takes me longer. So - how do you do it, and help me change my style please?

I want to say we are very much in love, so these are daft things in hindsight!!

I'm the same as your DH. ANd when I first met my DH - he was exactley the same as you!!!

It's taken me 5 years to make him realise that carrying things on and sulking/ignoring eachother is a waste of life.

We argue. I say ok is that that then?? Sorted?? Do you want a cup of tea??

At first he couldn't get his head round it - he and his exG were mega sulkers in his previous relationship. Not talking for weeks on end etc...

You just have to lear to let things go..........................

*learn

I have learnt 2 things, one from my first boss and one from my most recent ex.

First boss - have the barney, one buggers off. Then when you come back calmer, talk it thro. he would say 'God what I said that, wasn't that funny!! And then you called me a wanker!!! But did you really mean I am 'whatever it was'???

Very sweet way to work it all thro and everything is out.

My most recent ex was also quite good there. After a fight, we would make up but I'd still feel bad. He would say 'Lets just call it a do over sweetheart, OK? Everything's OK. So the 9ers are playing today, go 9ers!!!'

Catinboots, I think learing to let things go can also be good. haha