Help wanted

[thebuffalochild]

This SOS might seem a little unusual so I would be grateful if could suggest another location for the post.

I'm friends with a very lovely person who is currently in an awful relationship with a man. She has 1 Dd aged 2 and in her mid thirties.

I can not describe how many times I have seen her upset in the last 2 years or the things that have been said to her without making me cry.

I am very happily married to a Dh and I'm not posting here to advocate a same sex relationship for her. Reading between the lines of a great many heart to hearts with her, im coming to the conclusion that she may even be gay or at least be interested.

Not having a clue how to help her with this, plus her reluctance to talk directly about it (I have tried but she always changes the subject or gives non committal answers), I'm seeking the help of a more experienced person.

We live in Sheffield, from the Millhouses Park area. Anyone local or have any ideas how I could 'introduce' her to the right crowd of people?

I think her first step needs to be getting out of the awful relationship with the man. That will give her the space to think more clearly about her sexuality. Things could get very messy if she starts to explore the gay scene while still in this relationship.

Toatally what Plenty said. Now isn't the time. You could talk about some great counselling somone else you know had, to see if she'll get interested in the idea for herself. All sorts might come clear for her through that. But really, be careful how you go. Your support and friendship probably make her life better, and it's clear you're a great, loving friend, but you do her no good if you start trying to take responsibility for her happiness.