Internet Dating - Nice guy - But I told a massive lie - don't know how to get out of it!

[WhiteLace]

So I "met" this nice sounding guy online, really like the sound of him and we've been messaging back and forth for a week or so. He's just suggested we meet for coffee. Problem is I have lied about something pretty big - I lied about my name. Might not sound that big a deal but my real name is Tracy and I HATE HATE HATE it. No offense to other Tracy's out there but I just hate my name and thing it automatically gives people the wrong impression of you when you tell them. Therefore, when he asked my name I said it was Stacey. He then started going on about how he loves the name Stacey and it's such a pretty name! argh! So he's probably built up this image of me now based on me being called something I'm not. I know I have to tell him but how embarrassing and what a shit way to start off a relationship, by lying to him! How do you reckon he will react? will be gutted if it puts him off.

LOL at this thread. I was expecting "My name isn't really Stacey, it's Roger... I'm midway through the ops"

You can change any or all of your name by deed poll, not just the last name.

It'd be a mistake to keep it going as a name you go by in case this does work out and you develop a relationship. Just explain it as an online id.

:o at MrsJAlfredPrufrock

reminded me of this - en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Importance_of_Being_Earnest

There was a thread on here in the past few days, where someone was having a flap because her to be date, said he was a nurse rather than a student nurse.

Probably for all sorts of judgy reasons like you are saying, he wasn't deceptive, it was all over his facebook.

I'm jesting btw. But I'm wondering why this thread has no "red flag" alerts with "alarm bells" "a casual lie tends to form a habit and show character" type comments.

Amazing what having a vagina can do for you, I should cherish mine more!

I think it's an issue tbh.
I dated a guy for awhile - he had met a girl online who had lied about her name. When he found out he immediately wondered what else she'd lied about and it was very much an issue for him.
I think you definately need to come clean with him before you meet and then let him be the one to decide if it IS a big deal for him personally

Why don't you just pretend he'd misheard? Or have you been signing emails with 'Stacey'?

my fiance and I could tell you many funny stories about internet dating....a name really isn't anything to worry about. He will probably see the funny side and if he doesn't he's too uptight to worry about! We've been together 3 years have a 4 month old son and are getting married in april, so it can work! Have faith!! Good luck and enjoy!!

Gosh, if that's a MASSIVE lie you're on your way to beatification.

Blessed be St Tracy - patron saint of liars internet daters.

Arf!

And also am in total agreement with anyone who has said that identity protection quite sensible reason. Marital status, no. of kids etc ... not so much.