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why is she like this??

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Destiny065 · 11/01/2012 21:32

well my mum doesnt take nothing to do with me we have had a bumpy relationship always but still spoke. then i had my son who was a miracle baby as he was 10 weeks early and since then she hasnt bothered she wont come see him says shes too busy cosidering she only works 20 hours a week! she wont text to see how he is or nothing. she takes everything to do with the other grandkids just not mine, i think it might be a bit of jelousy because i have done well in my life but shouldnt she be proud of me?? i just dont understand where the hatred has came from its always been the same through my childhood its like i was adopted. i mean tonight she phoned my phone to speak to my brother who just picked up his daughter from his ex and she asked him to bring her round so that she could see her, and never mentioned my son when she knew my brother was with me!! i dont know what to do because its starting to really piss me off but it also hurts as she is the only parent i have!!!! anyone any suggestions should i just stop trying with her!! i have tryed speaking to her about it but it just causes an argument shes so in denial so what do i do??????

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ItsMeAndMyPuppyNow · 11/01/2012 21:45

You give up the hope that she will ever be the parent you would want her to be. Then you can no longer be hurt by her continued neglect and contempt.

Takes time and effort. Read "Toxic Parents", "When you and your mother can't be friends", and come vent on the Stately Homes thread.

Destiny065 · 11/01/2012 21:56

ok i will have a look at it thank you

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ifitsnotanarse · 11/01/2012 22:14

Destiny that sounds awful. I really don't know what to say to help. I guess being the best mum you can be to your DS is one way of showing your mum that you can't be worn down by her. Keep strong.

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