Lust

[welshboris]

Can a realtionship last if lust is the main factor?
Is it the be all and end all of a realtionship?

Looking back have the best realtionships you have had been based on lust?
Nothing to do with my present state of affairs, just something thats been on my mind recently

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i had a relationship a while ago, we were never a 'couple' just to good friends who were majorly in LUST with each other, but i think you need more to have an exclusive long term thing. i really liked this boy (were still friends) but it was always i like you in the fact i could jump your bones, not i like you in a way i could spend my life with you. DOnt get me wrong i loved him as a good friend and vice versa but the time we tried the couple thing we both decided it wasnt working after a week and we just stayed great friends.

Lust is actually pretty healthy, but only when balanced against other aspects of a relationship. I don't think that there's much chance of a relationship lasting if lust is the only factor involved - it wouldn't make a particularly balanced relationship and I would guess that both partners would bore of it pretty quickly as the initial excitement wore off.

Lust is really strong though isnt it? Hard to say no to

very very strong!

nup I don't think lust can sustain a relationship. it's good to begin wiht but can't be the main focus of things.

it's the temptation that goes with the lust sometimes I think. esp if it's naughty! lol. but as a long term thing then nope. unless lust turns to love of course!

it depends how important sex is to you I suppose
loads of people I know don't rate sex very highly in a relationship

No. Ian McEwan said it best: '. . . love which (does) not build a foundation on good sense (is) doomed.'

i think Lust is difficult especially when it is with a close friend, when you spend alot of time with someone and theres all this sexaul tension and energy bouncing between you, the slightest thing can set it off.

Yes thats another aspect of it, how important is sex in a long term realtionship? Yes others things matter, but surely sex is very important aswell?

Charlee
i think you need to tell us more

Yeah, im just thinking aloud here, Charlee obviously has some goss......

harpsichordcarrier lol wouldnt you all like to know

Yes please Charlee

yes charlee
i most certainly would
such tantalising detail....

LOL it was like a mills and boon novel!

Come on!!!!! The darts have finished, my work clothes are ironed, entertain meeeeeeeeeeeeee

OK i will give you a sneaky titbit but thats all i have to go and see to ds.

Oh and before i say this let me stress this is nothing compared to what me an dp have, thats the late night special lol

Ok so we met and the tension was there imedietly all this sexual energy charging everytime we were near one another, it seemed whatever we did we managed to end up in each others company. We would bump into each other on the street, we would be the ladt ones awake at parties. We resisted all temptation for ages. It was hard, he would slip his arm round me in a friendly manner and i would melt! .Then one day out of the blue there was several of us at a friends house having a gathering it was all quiet and he stands us and says.

'i cant take this anymore its driving me mad!'

He storms across the room towards me, everything is quiet everyone is staring. The he yanks me up onto my feet and snogs the face off me then................. walks out!

It went from there the rest i can't tell you. it went on for about a year then i moved away fell in love and had ds. he has a specail part in my mind because as i say we were good friends.

But i dont regret not taking it further into an exclusive relationship, if i had i may not have had ds and met dp. thats all your getting!

Very sweet story for a Sunday evening.
By the way, my previous post which said that I iron and watch darts was a misprint.

Well one day if i get very drunk i may tell you the juicy bits!

Sex can be what differentiates a really good friend from a long term partner