What do others make of this?

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exp and I split yr ago, hes marrying his new gf this summer. He seems to be purposely trying to provoke me...
At christmas I got a card with a photo him, new gf, her child and my kids on the front with "heres to 2012, a yr of new begginnings" inside.

I dont have either him or his gf on my facebook as they both continuely were posting PDA messages on each others walls and photos of them kissing etc so I unfriended them both. All good as I dont have to read/see it anymore, but hes now posting certain messages and clicking the make public button so they show up on mutual friends walls as hes tagged them. The latest being he visited some relatives of his(whome he hasnt seen for yrs, and who i spent boxing day with!) and tagged them into his post saying how it was like old times and the gf posted about how pleased she is to have met them and how excited she is about his cousins baby(thats the first time shes met her!)

Why is he doing this? why does he care what I think about what hes getting up to? to me it seems a bit like he doth protest too much, but rather, he doth push it into everyones face too much, but why? whats he trying to prove/achieve?

Who knows why exs do what they do?
All you can control is what you do.

I would suggest you just ignore him and leave him to his infantile ways.
I know there's nothing more irritating then having the ex's new gf in focus.

However you can choose to brush it off as the puerile rantings of an insecure person.
Afterall you know all his bad points, the gf has yet to have that joy!

It might not be about you... He might just be very happy and wanting to share this with everyone. Their PDA messages were probably for each other (although I hate that stuff so understand why it would grate). I doubt he's thinking about you in all this.

Not trying to be harsh.

What a sad twat! As for the card.... yawn!
Yes it does seem like he's protesting too much... which is good as he's making himself look a tit... so hold your head high, snigger a bit and think what a loser
x

I'm sure there is some way that you can set up facebook so you don't see any posts by certain people, hopefully some wise mumsnetter will post it for you.

Re the christmas card I doubt he is doing it deliberately to wind you up, I suppose at least it shows that his gf is getting on with your DCs which whilst it might be upsetting is better than the alternative.

They sound a bit like Le-ann Rimes and her hubby, you know the singer where he was a married man with kids and now she goes around hugging him and the children in public all the time - presumably to prove to everyone a) how right they were to break up a marriage because they are so much in "love" and b) how good she is with the children. Just ignore they are attention seekers.

Oh I think that the card is a definate wind up. What's wrong with sending you a photo of just him and the kids. He most definately is thinking of you in all this. Ignore and laugh at him.

I agree toptramp. There is no other reason why he would select certain status updates to be public when his profile is private, other than the fact he knows I will then be reading it. I am laughing at him, hes making out his lifes great, but if he feels the compulsion to do things like this, it makes me think for some reason Im obviously still having an effect on him, otherwise, why would he do it?!

Hi op,

Sorry you are down about it, and I can see your side but tbh i think it's just thoughtlessness on your ex-p side. Some people get a bit "silly" in love don't they?

We have a friend who is a butch soldier, real mans man, said he'd never have a relationship etc and has fallen head over heels with a girl. Now his facebook page is filled with her pics of him wearing a pinny cooking dinner, snuggling infront of a roaring fire eating Ice cream etc ....like they are the only people on earth to discover love.

If the gf is insecure she will always inwardly be competing with the history of you, if you are looked on positively by members of his family she will work hard to establish herself as the new focus. If, during your kids visits they talk about your positives and the lovely things you do as a mum she will try and compete.

I would feel sorry for someone like that op, you must be hard to measure up to...

Block him and her on Facebook then you won't see any of their postings or taggings. It's not enough just to unfriend - you actually have to block too. You can do this from your Privacy settings - it's really easy.

Ah ok, thanks for that bit of info, will do :) x