is anyone else financially trapped in their relationship? how can i get out?

[nuitdesetoiles]

I am completely stuck hs controlling and antagonistic behaviour is getting worse.

I want out, somewhere peaceful for me and dcs. However am totally trapped. Work part times on wine£21k stupidly cut my hours when he got a new better paid job so even more dependent. Full time would get £37 but once you cut your hours they`re gone. can't afford private rent, no possibility of social housing. He refuses to leave and our mortgage is bigger than my salary anyway let alone everything else.

Family too far away from school to go there. What do i do? Eventually i will get a few k out of the equity in the house but where do i live before then? And how to afford legal fees?

pm'd you.

You might get help with your rent via Housing Benefit. However you do need start up funds, when I wanted out of a relationship I bankrupted myself so I had no debts and a clean slate.

If you work pt you might get working tax credit as well as housing benefit. Go to entitledto.co.uk and it will tell you what benefits you would get. Don't let finances keep you trapped in an abusive relationship. It's not easy living on a low income but it's better than being controlled.