Once again we have been to see DH's sister and her DH and once again at least one of them cannot stop making snide comments about DD. My niece is six months older than DD, as they are now 3.5 and 4 there is little difference developmentally. However my daughter is very outgoing and will speak and talk to all children and adults and is generally assertive. Firstly my SIL used to make comments about how bossy she is (she is not - if anything thing their daughter is bossy and gets in a strop whenever she doesn't get her own way). This now seems to have stopped but her husband has now taken up the thread - the last three or four times we've seen them he has made some comment (ie criticism) about how confident she is and how she is forward and this weekend told me she was ballsy. As we were at their house I decided to let it lie and not make a fuss - but I am furious - they mollycoddle their daughter ( which is their right to do) but if the girls are playing and there is any sort of disagreement they always intervene and give their daughter what she wants - this weekend another child was told that she couldn't play with one of the toys as "*** is tired and doesn't want to do sharing". In the past I have overheard him ask his daughter to let my daighter play with something as she had it first - his daughter whinges so he says "right if you can't play nicely together neither of you can have it" and yet when it is my daughter's turn she is always told (by them!) that she should share. As I would expect everyone to ask their children to share it is difficult for me to say anything at this point. We are going to see them at Christmas and I am dreading it - my DH of course is oblivious to all this and can't even see any of it. GRRRRRRRRRR. Had to get it out of my system as it's giving me stomach ache. Thanks for listening - sorry it is so long!