Revenge!!!

[KirstyWirsty]

Has anyone ever taken revenge on their ex's? Putting up posters? Notifying the OW's husband etc??

I was awake at 4:30 this morning fantasising about what I could do and although I probably wouldn't (too worried about getting into trouble) I wondered if anyone else had??

There have probably been lots of interesting magazine articles on it before if you google. The Daily Mail often runs stories like this too.

revenge...... is a dish best served cold.

Its best to not do anything at all (sadly).

For a long time after my discovery I wanted revenge on H and his OW. I pretty much resisted although spent hour of fantasising of all the things I could do to both of them. I must have bored my best mate stupid with my warped ideas.

Looking back I put alot of energy into planning my revenge and fantasising over it but like to think that innnorma circumstances I am a normal pretty decent person and I suppose like you the fear of being "caught" or charged with any crime prevented me from actually carrying out any of my many plans/fantasies.

Sorry for the boring reply. I still sometimes think he got off all a bit scot free and wish I ahd done something but then I also love the fact I can hold my head up with dignity.

I had a chat with a friend in work and he said that PRCK had done enough damage to his own reputation without me adding to it .. and it was best to leave it

I think you are all spot on!

Doesn't mean you can't enjoy thinking about it though ! Just don't put it into practice. I think your workmate was absolutely right!

I think thinking about it is quite cathartic, to be honest about your feelings and how angry you are. But probably long term healthiest to enjoy the fantasy then put it away so you emerge with dignity intact.

The best revenge is to move on and be happy without him.
Sounds hard to do now, but it really is true.
If you do anything nasty to him he will know you still care, and you will look like a demented psycho and make people feel sorry for him.
Rise above it with dignity and watch him lose his as people find out what he really is.

Enjoy thinking about it, don't act on it. Ultimately, it just makes you look a bit sad and obsessed.

the bst revenge for me was to just tell the truth. people were rightly shocked when ieventually decided to open up and not hide it all away.

Hmm, a bit impulsively, I emailed a colleague of Dickhead's who was still emailing to him on the house email account, 'Just to let you know, in case H hasn't told you, he no longer lives here since his affair with XXX (another colleague) and we are getting a divorce. He has a new email address, I believe.'

Very childish, but very satisfying. He was furious! My take was it wasn't my job to keep his sordid secrets.

Dropping his expensive bike off the bike rack at 30 miles an hour was a genuine accident, though!

Fully agree with kaluky...

I was told the best revenge is to live well.

It doesnt mean you cant fantasise about things you might do though. I thought of one thing I could do which I was so brilliant to my mind at the time, that I used to giggle to myself at the thought of doing it. It worked for me!

EllenJane I dont think you were childish doing that. Its not like you said it to the colleague's face which could have embarrassed them. I'm still getting post for stbx 7 months after he left because he cant be arsed to get his stuff redirected. If only I could send a few pithy emails!!

I think living well is the best advice, though. I don't think the children would be very impressed by some of the things that I have thought about! But telling the truth isn't a bad thing to do.

I did-big and little things-not proud now-one thing I did was get a male friend to phone dh and pretend to be bf of ow!You see ow was my best friend,the one I'd confided in when dh was cool and distant.I knew her very well so my friend was given lots of private info.He did a wonderful act as angry lover.He[my friend] was quite famous then and the ow was on tele for a bit [in an ill fated soap].My first husband is dead now and I have lost touch with the friend.At the time revenge was sweet but now it all seems so petty.It happened in the 60's btw.

Luckily our children cannot read our thoughts:) The other good advice I was given was to not be too hard on myself. Certainly not about thoughts we have no intention of turning into actions. This can be harder than it sounds to us mums who are so used to putting everyone else first. Be kind to yourself, you deserve it.
I totally agree about telling the truth. Its very cathartic.

My ds (now 21) asked me a couple of years ago why I had never taken revenge on his dad - I told him it was because I was better than that. He smiled and nodded. That was the best revenge I could ever have had.

Me? I sent emails to every single branch of where my ex worked and there was over 54 of them telling him what a shit he was. Considering I had moved me and my kids over 104 miles away from our home to be with him thought was justified.

1. I went on the same dating site as a man and messaged all the women in his age range and told him what a head fuck he was.

1. I sent emails to another mans work place and all the surrounding offices telling them that he was married and cheating and attached a picture of me and him out, and that whilst they paid for his hotel accomodation to go work away he was in a cheap B&B instead.

Sorry thats told them what a headfuck he was.

A woman in my town put posters up about her ex. It made her look really unhinged.

I did have a leaflet through my door one with a 2 photos on it of the husband and hos OW. Leaflet went on to describe the fact they had been having an affai and we should look out for his or her car (car make, model,colour and reg) in certain laybys close to our village at certain days of the week and certain times.

It quite tickled me at the time.

Do itttttt I love a bit of revenge ! My violent designer clothes loving ex bf hit me to the point of breaking so I left not before I filled the bath with bleach and chucked his favourite clothes in !!

We-ell, I wouldn't do it now but once, long ago, after someone I'd been living with for some time decided to start shagging around and lying, blah, blah, blah, I did take a big jar of lobster bisque (which had been in the cupboard for ages and was the subject of some contention ie I wanted it thrown out) and shook it all over the bottom sheet and then pulled the duvet over it and then left. It was a really hot day. He was away for about three days...

We've spoken since and he has never mentioned it.

Disclaimer - this was nearly 15 years ago.

Oh, and it was because he said "you're so gullible" in a really contemptuous tone when he thought I'd hung up after a phone call...

I mean that was the last straw - it wasn't the main reason. Am not that deranged.

Someone I know found her DH's pervy conversations with the OW on the computer, printed them out, had them bound and then sent a copy to his parents, his Boss (as had been chatting to and fucking the OW on work time/using his driver to pick her up and take her to various hotels) and then coldly presented a copy to him on his desk with a cup of tea.

Beautiful.

I was the OW (even though I know it is wrong, I would love a copy)