Been with a guy for around 8 months, knew he was a little quirky but was never really a problem because I don't embarrass easily and don't care what other people think generally. However this was all before it started to become a bit more "your friends are my friends and my friends are your friends" iyswim? So anyway I went out with him a couple of weeks before new years eve and met his "friends". This is basically a group of guys he knew from school 25+ years ago. All of them are what can only be described as "losers" and I know that sounds harsh but they're all still living with their parents (ages 37/38) none have ever been married or managed to maintain long term relationships and all of them spend almost every night getting drunk in the same pubs they went to when they were 18. It was an awkward night. I was dreading bumping into anyone I knew and couldn't wait to get out of there! So a week before New Years Eve I arranged to go out with my friends. He wanted to come too. I told him I didn't want to make a habit of going out together EVERY weekend as I like to spend time with my friends in a "girls night" kinda way but as a one off - ok. So we went to an 80s night. My friends and I love our rock music, old hair rock stuff like aerosmith and bon jovi. He does too so it should've been a good night. However, when I requested Bon Jovi from the DJ and my friends and I started dancing DB thought it would be appropriate to start headbanging like he did when he was 18 - everyone was watching and laughing at him (and not in a good way) and then his glasses flew off [shock] he panicked trying to find them amongst the feet of other dancers, all of whom found the whole thing hilarious and I just wanted the ground to open up and swallow me. Especially when I saw the look on my friend's faces (who were obviously feeling like I did the week before about bumping into anyone they knew!). Now NYE - he wanted to come out with me and my friends again. I couldn't face it so pulled out of a night I'd had planned for quite a while for an easier life [sad] ended up out with him and his "friends" again. Feeling like an alien and very much missing my friends and "My" kind of people. It isn't snobbery. I know I'm no better than anyone else but they really are the kind of guys you would expect to see in the movies as the group of losers that never really progressed from their teen years. DP has done better admittidly, he doesn't live at home with his parents but admits he only married his ex as she was pregnant and they thought they'd get credit easier if they were married [hmm] and they only went in for a child because they knew it would be easier to get a council house. He also says he never really liked her that much but had nothing else to do and knew he'd get nobody else as he was overweight [shock] I was willing to let that go because they were young and stupid and he's a lot older now but I'm starting to realise he DOES embarrass me and the only reason he didn't before is because we never mixed with each other's friends before. I do like HIM. Just not his past or that part of him that is still a 15 year old awkward lad who hangs out with people he doesn't like that much (his own admission about some of these guys) because has no real friends. I also don't want him near my friends again [sad] It would be ok if we could see each other in isolation but that isn't possible is it. Can it progress?? am I being really, really harsh? don't want to finish with him really but can't handle the embarrassment. He keeps going on and on about coming out with me and my friends and I'm having a hard time stopping myself from shouting at him "Piss off and deal with your own life and stop trying to live through mine!" awful [sad] I feel like he's leaching off my social life in a way but he's wrecking it at the same time [sad]