So glad I found this site, hope to get some help/advice. Where to start... I've been married for 20 years, have 3 kids, 2 of school age, 1 of 18. I'm so unhappy in my marriage. Always had ups and downs, but over the last year all we do is argue. He's always controlled all the money, as we have joint accounts, (inc mine, I work part time) He always dictates our food shopping, and any expenditure. But the worst thing is, to others, he appears so nice and everyone likes him. He's had some health problems himself over the last few years, which I do feel sorry for, but they just seem to have made everything worse. None of the few friends I have, are aware of how unhappy I am, I've kept it all to myself (he doesn't like any of my friends!) He is such a control freak. We've got the usual financial ties, mortgage, 2 cars etc. there's absolutely no spare cash I could use to help me. Also, I live in a very rural area, and everyone knows everyone else, and I just know I'd be the bad one. I just feel I can't go on any more with things the way they are. I go to bed every night and dream of how it would be if it was just me and the kids. It's all getting me so down, and I feel I have no one to turn to.... I have no family near, both my parents are dead. Any help or advice much appreciated, thanks.....