Can't have sex

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dh and me can't have sex I've been depressed for ages and have just started to fancy it again but I have no contraception and condoms make him lose his erection. He won't have a vasectomy and I don't know whether I'll be able to access sterilisation because they're rationing it for women now I'm going to see my gp next week to ask if they will let me get essure in the neighbouring health authority.

I'm fed up. Tried last night and it just didn't work. I'm terrified of getting pregnant and need something permanent. Can't have merina or anything hormonal because of the side effects (depression and weight gain mainly). Became anaemic with the copper coil. I've ordered some femidoms from Amazon but I don't know whether they will be any good.

I had an early misscarriage not long ago so pregnancy is a real fear. I just want a relaxed shag. Is that too much to ask?

Not too much to ask at all.... I wouldn't discount the mirena coil. It is a ludicrously low dose of progesterone only and really barely makes it into the blood stream. It will most likely stop or substantially reduce your periods so no anaemia problem. And its the most effective form of contraception next to sterilisation.

Is there a local family planning clinic in your area? They tend to be more knowledgeable than GPs on this sort of thing.

Whymwont your DH consider a vasectomy. It's a much smaller operation for men...?

Didn't you post this a few weeks ago?

Why wont your dh have a vasectomy? There really is nothing to it. I had it done. three week wait on nhs, op done in city centre clinic at 8.30 am, took 20 minutes, walked home afterwads then back to work following day. Virtually no pain just purple plums for two weeks.
Best thing I ever had done!

yOu could use persona method then you know when youre able to have stress free sex? Good luck

Is he taking the piss about using condoms? There are so many varieties and sizes nowadays that I'm sure he could find something comfortable.
We used condoms for a couple of weeks when I had my coil removed and we were waiting for clear results after DH's snip, we hadn't used them for 20 years and were amazed how good they were, I could hardly tell he was wearing one and he didn't have any performance problems, despite them being a bit too small/tight for him.
Given that some condoms also have an integral cock ring, that should help his erection, not hinder it.

I did post about it recently. He's not taking the piss with the condoms. They really do put him off. I think he should have a vasectomy but he won't.

He should have a vasectomy.

I know but I can't force him. He keeps saying he will then just puts it off over and over again I'm getting sick of not having any sex. The only thing we can do is abstain which is no good. We used withdrawal but I still became pregnant

You can do other stuff though can't you? If getting pg is the only issue then why don't you sort each other out together, for want of a better phrase!!
My DP has had a vasectomy (before he met me) and I love the fact that I don't have to pop nasty hormone pills or have horrid little metal things inside me anymore. He says it was just a few days discomfort and then he was fine.

If femidoms are the same as they were 20 years ago, it's like having sex with a breadbag inside you, they were awful, huge damn things that rustled!