Ex H constantly emails or texts me with long rambling and dishonest emails making unpleasant comments to me- silly things like claiming the children are covered in flea bites from my house (we do not have fleas, he does not like the fact we have kitten & cat) , that I have a series of men staying over my house (I do not, have been in steady relationship and I waited 6 months to even introducce him to children) or that I have "agreed for him to keep DC longer" than child contact order states for that visit (he says this whilst he has children, so that police will not force him to return them). He makes up about 3-7 things each email and it is tiresome. He sits outside my house after he should have left so I cannot get to work or go out- he leaves when police arrive. His girlfriend emails me and texts me from his mobile (on contact mobile). She has been warned by police to stop.
During contact he tells DC that I am a fking whore, a bitch, the nastiest worst mum in the world, etc... and this is horrible for them. He keeps their things and wont return them (we have lost 3 coats this way) so that I have to buy new ones. He removes DB mobile and blocks my tel contact when he has them, despite court order.
If he finds out I am going away or I have plans, he does not turn up for contact or arrives the next day, so DC are waiting at the window for a long time (sometimes 1 1/2 hours before they give up), so I cannot go on my weekend off. He regularly returns children 2-4 hours late after contact, so I am waiting for hours and they are tired for school on Monday - he sometimes does not say why or when he eventually answers phone always claims different "reasons" none are real (8 times in last 20 contacts).
I've changed tel - so he has access only to a mobile that is switched off aside from when he is due to have children or telephone them, and have court appointed email account which I read once fortnight only to limit his access to me. Judge has told him he is not to come further than edge of my drive. It's not enforceable though. I know no one can solve this problem but am posting for a bit of a chat really so that I can let off some steam.
I posted nearly 3 years ago on this site, when my marriage broke up. ExH had been controlling and physically abusive for years but I was scared. All is sorted, I'm happily settled with a lovely new boyfriend, have sole residency of 3 DC ( now 3, 7, 9) and exH had supervised child contact for a year and half due to Children services involvement and now unsupervised over night once fornight by a court order.