Would you forgive a one night stand?!

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Posting this on behalf of my best friend.
Well she doesn't know I've posted it but she's coming over at 9 and I don't have any advice for her at the moment :-(
She's been with her husband for 2 and a half years, they have 1 little boy who is 9 months old.
Things haven't been going well for the past few months, nothing major, just everyday stresses I guess.
He has never given reason for her to doubt him although they did meet on a dating website and she has wondered before if he is still using it however hass no proof of this.
They had a row yesterday morning about here to go on holiday next year, was meant to be a romantic getaway to try and patch things up with them.
He booked it for feb and she wanted to go when Warmer, silly row.
The row resulted in her saying she didn't think it would work, is there a point in the holiday at all?
He stormed out to his brothers who he was going out with last night anyway.
Turns out he went to a bar, met a girl and ended up back at her place!
He was texting Sophie all night so in between shagging this bird etc!
She was asking where he was and he told her ( just forgot the other girl part )
He came home at 11am and is saying he wants it to work as did my friend so they kissed and made up.
She only knows this after finding messages in his phone from The girl, asking if he got home okay ( she knew he still live with her )
His reply was "yeah, had a great night but she wants to work it out now so seems to be going well my end"
Doesn't look like he was planning on meeting again but they hadn't actually broke up although he says he thought it was over.
Mess.

Haven't you got enough shit going non in your own relationship without taking on someone else's shit too?

You don't know he slept with the woman. If you really are posting on behalf of a friend then offer a listening sympathetic ear and nothing more.

But I think this post, if true, is actually another one about you.

Is your friend you?

Did the girl work in a copyshop?

I'm new here so I'm confused as to the inside talk!
But it's still cheating in my opinion, they hadn't broken up as in he had moved out of the family home so I wouldn't forgive

He's cheating, it's obviously bothering you, you need to dump him.

OP I'm not sure if you're a particularly persistent troll with nothing better to do, or if you really are as fucked up as you seem. Either way, go and get some fresh air and help.

Yes. It's no big deal.

No. I'm worth more than that.

Oh Pudding, 'Sophie' is you isn't she?

What is it with the pair of you and 'holidays'? Don't you know that, second only to January, shortly after the summer holiday period is the biggest earner for divorce lawyers?

Has this one come about so that you can both get over the stresses and strains of you banging on for the past two and half years about him cheating when you weren't together?

After his NYE escapade it sounds as if you've got enough to feed your green-eyed monster for the next 5 years; never mind, the Seychelles are delightful in February and it'll be easy for you to find a deserted spot where you can bash his eardrums without fear of disturbing the neighbours.

Izzy that's a bit mean!
The op is Obviously going through a tough pay hand that isn't very kind of you to suggest her bashing his eardrums in us wrong when he very obviously has cheated on her!

I dont think you understand what's going on here, if you've only been here five minutes, NN. It's a bit off to rock up and scold somebody who does.

Lebof, I don't understand the sarcasm, or why there is a need for it do you're right in that sense, now would I understand why you would accuse the op of bashing in his eardrums as if that would be wrong when he has been sleeping around!

NN, if you "don't understand it" perhaps you are missing something ?

Just a thought...

I've just seen the links to other posts she has put on here, is this all the same person? I'm confused!

Although the male in question stayed out all night on NYE, it certainly isn't obvious to me that he 'cheated' NN.

For all I know, he may have been part of an inebriated group that went on to someone's house after closing time and was thrown out with the empties the next morning without having got his leg over in the interim.

I'm sure Pudding will be the first to admit that she has given her dh considerable verbal grief over the past couple of years, and my reference to giving his eardrums a bashing was made with humorous intent rather than being motivated by unkindness. In that respect I perhaps should have ended my final sentence with a

If you take time to read Pudding's other recent posts via the links provided on page 1 by Lizza you'll, hopefully, see the bigger picture and will be better placed to render judgement of my own and/or others' responses to this thread.

Oh god, sorry!
Should have read through those before I posted I guess.
I don't think this incident happened, I think she's still banging on about him cheating. When they weren't together. After age ended it. Jesus.
Fuck, I've just realised Im cheating on all of my ex partners with my new one.
Should I confess?

crossed post.

Yes, NN, it's as clear as mud is it not?

It seems probable that Pudding and Sophie are one and the same but, if not, Pudding may not necessarily be the most appropriate adviser in matters of suspected 'cheating' and it's to be hoped that she directs Sophie to this board to canvas opinion of her dh's behaviour.