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Facebook photos after break-up

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OhDeeeeeryMe · 01/01/2012 16:39

OK. So my cousin has just split up with her boyfriend, he still has photos of them as a couple on his Facebook, is this reasonable or should he take them down, what do you think guys?

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OldLadyKnowsSantaClaus · 01/01/2012 16:42

His photos, his FB, up to him.

OracleInaCoracle · 01/01/2012 16:42

totally ok imo. why wouldnt it be?

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OhDeeeeeryMe · 01/01/2012 16:46

I agree, but my cousin thinks that by leaving the photos on his Facebook that he still has feelings for her Confused

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Pancakeflipper · 01/01/2012 16:48

Maybe he's not yet downloaded the latest photo of him as a single man or with his latest girl?

If it's still there in 1 yr's time then it's creepy.

birdsofshoreandsea · 01/01/2012 16:49

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OracleInaCoracle · 01/01/2012 16:50

not at all, they are his memories of a period in his life. he can leave them up for 10 years and it would mean nothing different.

GeriManda · 01/01/2012 16:50

Well, he probably does. Why doesn't she Hide him if it bothers her so much?

Hassled · 01/01/2012 16:52

I think it's quite reasonable and mature for him to have left them up.

ElusiveCamel · 01/01/2012 16:53

Why would he take them down? I have pictures going back years of when my H and were together. It would be downright weird for people to go through all their FB pictures and remove all the pictures of them with someone when they were a couple after they split.

SarahStratton · 01/01/2012 16:55

It's not for her to say, it's his FB. I have photos round my house that include my XH. I wouldn't get rid of them, they are part of our family history.

ShirleyKnotChristmas · 01/01/2012 17:02

I used to have (before I did a big ole flouncerama) photos dating back to 2007 on my FB. Lots with people I no longer bother with and a bunch of stuff of me and my ex.

No way would I delete them, how childish!

(much more adult to trash my entire account Grin Wink

Vicky2011 · 02/01/2012 14:00

In my view it would be much more immature and actually quite nasty if he deleted them. It's not like the relationship never happened!

I think your cousin is way over thinking this.

Notalone · 02/01/2012 14:06

I ended my relationship with not so DP earlier this year. He proceeded to rip up every photo of me he owned and deleted me and photos of me off FB even though we were together for almost 2 decades and many were family pics. I have kept all my photos of him both on and off FB. They no longer take pride of place in the lounge or as my profille pic but they are still part of my family history and I think DS will agree when he is older too.

So in a long winded way I would say it isn't keeping the photos at all that is a problem. but how they are kept and displayed. I don't think photos should necessarily be removed, just because the relationship is no longer there, especially if they have DC's.

FabbyChic · 02/01/2012 14:09

Maybe he does have feelings for her, however they are his pictures and its his perogative. Not hers.

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