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prettyfly1 · 13/01/2006 11:50

hiya, i have new neighbours. now i am single mum with one baby of nine months. he is very good but there are times aound eightish in the morning and eightish at night where he cries and makes a bit of noise, as babies do. i am sure though that my neighbours can hear it and i hope its not too annoying for them. they woke me up however at four o clock in the mornign singing to the fxxxxxxxg pussy cat dolls and shouting. they also woke my baby up. I love my house and i have been so happy since moving in, my neighbours where i lived before were drug addicts and kept me up all night every night when i was expecting, i really cant got hrough that again, but i have no idea how to say to new neighbours, to be a bit more considerate wihtout causing trouble. any advice

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Spidermama · 13/01/2006 11:53

It's worth remembering that they may not know how loud it sounds in your flat. I think the best course of action is to let them know in as friendly a way as possible. Swap phone numbers and also invite them to call you if they ever find your music/telly too loud.

I remember being mortified to learn than my next door neighbours had been furious about my music for a while and I'd had no idea they could hear it because I never heard them.

I would advise you to bring up the subject asap before you get building fury.

HTH.

spacedonkey · 13/01/2006 11:53

Hi prettyfly

It might have been a one-off - I'd be inclined to wait and see if it happens again. If it does, then knock on the door and have a friendly word with them - very inconsiderate behaviour, but some people just don't think, and once they've been told they might stop it. If they've only just moved in, you've got an ideal excuse to go round and say hello (or catch them as they walk past maybe).

Rhubarb · 13/01/2006 11:55

Have you introduced yourself yet? One thing you could do is go over and introduce yourself and apologise if they can hear your baby at night and in the mornings, explaining that the walls are very thin. You can also say how pleased you are to have new neighbours as the other ones were very noisy and you found it too much when you were pregnant!
They should take the hint.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 13/01/2006 11:58

It might be a one off. See how it goes over the next week. I would agree that you should make the effort to introduce yourself too.

robin3 · 13/01/2006 11:59

I think that's good advice Rhubarb....if you make them in to friends in some way then they'll have more natural empathy towards you and you will be able to joke with them after a noisy night but at the same time get the message across.

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prettyfly1 · 13/01/2006 12:01

umm havent got a clue. i would feel very uncomfortable jsut going round there so ??

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spacedonkey · 13/01/2006 12:01

"accidentally" bump into them outside and say hello there?

Rhubarb · 13/01/2006 12:03

Go round with a bottle of wine? I used to do this anyway whenever I moved in anywhere, it's an ideal way to get to know your neighbours. They'll probably be really touched.

anorak · 13/01/2006 12:04

Sorry to be unhelpful (actually I think Rhubarb's advice is good) but this situation reminded me of a Viz 'top tip'

It is worth remembering that playing loud music late at night can annoy your neighbours. Another good way is to bang dustbin lids early in the morning

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