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advice my SO and I have conflicting thoughts on the pregnancy?

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justme187 · 30/12/2011 18:54

well my SO and I at the start of this had different beliefs on abortion. Like I thought because I got pregnant I had to ctt even though it wasn't the right time. My bf said he thought it was best for me to abort. I said would keep it. Well a week ago I changed my mind about everything after seeing the ultrasound I just didn't like it really I wanted the dr. to tell me it was going to end on its own or something. But it's healthy. I have had bad dreams about it growing up and hurting others. I have only like bad feelings about the baby and I can't shake it it's just there I don't feel love I just feel something I know I shouldn't it's my baby for goodness sakes. My bf has changed slightly in the other direction he told his family on christmas. His family is excited and he has even picked out names to consider. I did that back before I had these odd feelings. I actually wanted kids with him someday just not really now. And I hate the whole m/s deal. I'm in school only 19 and have my whole life ahead of me my family would freak if they knew. My bf is older is a dermatologist focused in cosmetology. His family thought it was about time later might be too late for him. Plus he's getting a vasectomy he doesn't want this to ever happen again it's his body and his prerogative I really only have this chance to have a child with him and I want a family with him. But I really don't think or feel positive about any of this. Idk advice?

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DitaVonCheese · 01/01/2012 20:14

Congrats on the engagement OP :)

FWIW afaik time doesn't have such a devastating effect on men's fertility as on women's - my grandfather started his family in his 40s and went on to have eight kids (though I'm now 35 with 2 DC and struggling to understand where he found the energy).

Does your DP have other children already?

justme187 · 01/01/2012 21:39

no he's never wanted kids been in a 17 year relationship no kids one 'loss' as he puts it but no kids.

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