Spending

[mum80]

I earn considerably less than dh. Partly because I work part time but even full time would be about 25% of his salary.
We have very different spending habits. He spends much more than I do on himself and dc than I spend.
An example is before Christmas he took dc to Lego Shop to buy an Advent Calendar whilst I was working. £75 later!
This week there was a similar incident. I took dc shopping whilst dh was at work to spend some Christmas money. I checked with dh before letting them spend it and he said as long as they know that all they are getting.
The next day we all went out as a family and he ended up spending about £60 on the 3dc and another £30 on himself.
Don't know whether this is a big issue or am I being silly? After all he never stops me spending. I just don't feel the need quite so much. Although a surprise treat would be nice occassionally.

Can you afford it?

Well bearing in mind we owe inlaws money I wolusd say no. Although he thinks its ok as we are paying them back in instalments.

Is it your own feeling that you contribute less financially that makes you reluctant to splash out on yourself? Would he mind if you did?

Or do you want him to run his spending past you like you do with him?

Why did you check before shopping with your kids?

Seriously is this all you worry about? He earns the money he is spending it on his family, leave him to it. The inlaws money is being paid off if you are that worried about it work full time earn more and pay it off yourself.

I checked because the item they wanted was something similar to something they had before. So messy.
I guess I am just naturally cautious with money. I especially feel uncomfortable spending when we are in debt. Incidently this is not the 1st time this has happened.
Fabby me working full time wouldn't help as childcare would cost more than I would earn.