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Finally made an appointment with the doctor, going to discuss my attack and abusive relationship

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craftyknickers · 30/12/2011 08:54

I have no idea now that I have booked the appointment what I am going to say.

I want them to refer me to someone like a psyciatrist (sp?)

I am scared of admitting to the doc that I came of my AD's when I came home (I went through a 'I don't need these I can do this on my own' stage)

My anxiety is quite bad at the moment but I don't know if I want to go back on AD's.

What did you say to your doctor when discussing this for the first time?

I don't know why but I am very nervous about this!

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Snorbs · 30/12/2011 09:04

I'm sorry, I don't know your history but I did want to say well done on making the appointment. I know it can't have been easy. Feel proud of yourself for taking steps to help you get better.

As for the doctor, would it be easier if you wrote down what you wanted to say and gave it to her/him? That way you can be sure that everything you wanted to say will be there without having to worry about forgetting anything important.

StickAForkInMeImDone · 30/12/2011 09:06

Would it help if you wrote down (doesn't matter if it is jumbled or jumps about) how you feel and gave it to the Doctor?
Sometimes it helps to say "I don't know what to say but I need help" the Doctor will then ask you questions and you can go from there.
Well done on making the appointment. Hope it goes well.

craftyknickers · 30/12/2011 09:11

Thank you

Writing it down is a brilliant idea, I tend to struggle getting words out when I'm nervous so that will help a great deal!

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StickAForkInMeImDone · 30/12/2011 09:13

remember you are not writing an essay. It doesn't matter if it is in bullet points, jumbled or doesn't seem to make sense. It will help. Good luck

Anniegetyourgun · 30/12/2011 09:22

A doctor is not your boss, your parent or (thank God) your abusive partner, so he/she has no right at all to tell you off for not taking your ADs and almost certainly won't even try to. Try not to worry about that; it's really not a big deal. A sensible doc will discuss the options with you, whether to go back on them or try something else etc.

Agree with writing it down. Either a note for the Dr or cue cards for yourself. If you weren't all nervous and anxious you wouldn't need a psychiatrist, would you?

Try not to be ashamed that you can't "do this on my own". Some things are too big for one person to tackle alone. You wouldn't feel you ought to be able to just get over a broken leg without a professional setting and plastering it, would you? And you wouldn't feel like too much of a wimp taking painkillers either. Well, the brain can be wounded just like any other part of you, and it's no disgrace (except to the people who hurt you). It can also heal like any other part, provided it's looked after right.

StickAForkInMeImDone · 30/12/2011 09:29

Annie that last paragraph of yours is so right.
Good luck OP, and well done on you for going to the GP.

craftyknickers · 30/12/2011 09:31

Annie thank you that's just what I needed to hear Smile

Feeling better about going now, I am going to write everything down and explain it best I can and if I get stuck I'll give him the notes.

I was worried about his reaction because they tell you how dangerous it can be to come off AD's alone and I didn't want him to take me less serious because of it (but I realise I'm being paranoid)

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