Ex moving back in

[AndLibbyMakesThree]

Hi

I wondered if anyone could give me any advice.

16 months ago my ex and I split up. We have one DS, who's now 3. My ex has been renting a flat while I stayed in the family home. I wanted to sell our home straight away so we could both move on, but he didn't want to.

Anyway, our house is finally up for sale, but my ex has said that we just can't afford to keep paying for two places (our house and the flat he's living in) and he's moving back in.

I totally agree that financially having two places is a nightmare, especially as I'm a SAHM and he doesn't earn a big salary. But I'm absolutely dreading him moving back in. I was so unhappy before he moved out, and I've been slowly trying to piece my life back together and get used to being a single mum. I've had an awful couple of years (mum died, had a miscarriage, had to accept that I'll never have the second child I longed for, and discovered my son has autism) and am really struggling emotionally.

I can't stop him moving back in, as we own the house jointly. Also I should add that he's not a violent or aggressive person, so I'm not scared for my safety. However, I'm very worried about how it will affect my son, and I'm also terrified of how it will affect my mental health. I'm just about hanging on, but knowing he's moving back in feels like the final straw - I just want to run away.

I'm not sure if there's anything that anyone can do, but if anyone's been in a similar situation, or if anyone can offer any advice, I'd be really grateful.

Thanks for reading this.

Sorry but he did not have to support you and no wonder he wants to move back in, he is in no way responsible for supporting YOU only your child.

NO wonder the poor man is finding things hard and wants to move back in.

YOu should be living off of your savings not poncing off of him for yourself, the child is different but you? You didn't want him why have you taken money off of him to live on?

Spousal maintenance is often a part of financial settlements in a divorce, especially if one partner not working to provide childcare allowed the other to have a successful career.

I dont call that "poncing" off anyone.

I do however think it is the ex's attempt at continuing to control the OP. He refused to sell the house in an attempt to control everything and now it has become a matter of urgency, he is moving back in.

Stinks of being unable to let go imo.

Are they married?

Spousal maintenance only comes into it if you're married. (Hence spousal)

I am merely pointing out that maintenance is often paid to an ex spouse in the event of divorce and isnt considered "poncing", so why is this?