Husband not supporting me

[socks4]

After dd was born I tore to a 4th degree tear, needing a colostomy in Feb, husband thinks it is wee buns and does his own thing going out etc, I feel soooo alone and scared docs are useless I just found out I have pts I hate my husband for not caring just wanting to rant sori.

socks4 - Hugs to you; it sounds like you're having a really tough time. Have you thought about counselling or therapy to help you through? Have you sat down with your husband and really telling him, uncensored, how you feel? How alone and scared you are? How would he react to that? Or have you done that already? You need support. If he isn't willing or able to support you, as tough as it is, can you support yourself first and then take things from there?

He has just left me and I have spoke to him but he refuse to speak about this now I cannot have my op I have just started therapy but my husband has been to any or has asked for some ...... what a mess thanks conflugenglugen

socks - can you take a step back and are you able to say something about how your marriage was before this all happened? it helps to put a foundation to what you're going through.

We are newlyweds lol I got pregnant 2 months after the wedding life was perfect

I would say keep on with your therapy, socks -- putting yourself first is, I think, the most important thing you can do right now. And take each and every other part one step at a time: your health, your marriage, your family. If your husband keeps refusing to talk to you or to support you, then there are options you can choose from, as difficult as some of them might seem to be.

Do you think he'll come round? Do you think there is hope that he will start to take notice of your predicament and your needs? What's your gut feeling about it?

Thanks conflugenglugen