Quick Poll - Stay or Go?

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My husband, kids and I have been invited to MILs tomorrow for a post Christmas buffet.
Though I have no problem with that per se my brothers sister-in-law will be there and I just do not want to face her.
Background, for the last 11 years she never initiated conversation with me, has never acknowledged birthday, Christmas gifts etc. When her children were born I never held them, cuddled my nephew for the first time when he was 5!
Anyway, earlier this year my brother and her went through a horrendous patch and it all came out that she's not 'shy' she thinks we're ALL beneath her, not just me.
Anyway, they're back together again and making a go of it, MIL says she is a changed woman much more socialable etc.
I wishh them well but just cannot feel I can face her, I've made such an effort but now I know how she feels I can't be arsed.
My husband is very upset with me for refusing to go.
So, should I go?

You're a better person than this. I would go, be charming and not cause an atmosphere and walk with my head held high.

I don't get how your brothers wife will be at your MILs, but anyway, just go and don't bother with her. Be nice to everybody else. They aren't the ones who've snubbed you.

Well, it's not Christmas day itself, nor NY's, so she can't spoil those. Go. Be gracious. Be above it all.

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I'd go. Try it. see. if she still awful then don't go again.

I'd do it for your Dh and your MIL who, I'm guessing are lovely and worth doing this to make them happier.

keep the voodoo doll and pins hidden though

She hasn't beaten you up, stolen from you, shagged your H or eaten your DC. She doesn't sound terribly nice but really, this is a big social occasion with lots of other people, you don't need to exchange more than the bare minimum of social pleasantries with her. Go along, spend time with the nice people there, and don't be another awkward family member.

Go and enjoy yourself, she has the problem not you so rise above it

Go!

Let me get this straight... your brother's sister in law is cold to you and that makes you so cross you can't socialise in the same space? It matters that she doesn't buy you presents? I'm confused, but this sounds way over the top.

i think it has to be her brothers wife, not his sister in law--thats such a distant relation!