Quick vent

[Vicky2011]

hi all

Just a quick post and don't really expect any replies but need to put it down here otherwise I'll post something on FB or Twitter and inflame things with my "D"H. Plus I find it so hard to read everyone's posts when it seems most other families are calm and not chaotic like our's is. H is drunk, stupidly drunk having knocked back loads yesterday and then locking himself away to drink more when DS (who has a horrid chest infection and gastric flu) had the temerity to be up in the night coughing and wretching.

A few days ago his drinking and moods ruined a family event which we'd all been looking forward to for ages. So I know this isn't AIBU but nonetheless, now that he has ruined both Christmas and the big treat, WIBU to tell him to fuck off to fucksville and then when he gets there to fuck off some more?

And calm...breath...

You won't be being unreasonable unless you don't follow through by visiting a lawyer who specialises in divorce and family law to ensure that he doesn't ruin any more celebrations.

You're right Izzy. I've forgiven him a lot over the years but this feels like a real watershed. It takes a special kind of c* to ruin Christmas for a child. (Though in fairness, I will ensure DS's Christmas isn't ruined, but that isn't the point.)

As it seems you've given him a lot of rope and he's repeatedly hung himself, I suggest you tell him to shape up or ship out - and mean it!

There's always a queue for divorce lawyers in January, but I'm sure you'll find one who'll give you an early appointment

Why not make 2012 the year you got rid of the moody drunken sot who's blighted your life for far too long and is a piss-poor (no pun intended) role model for your ds?

You can't go on like this, he can ruin his own life as much as he likes but don't allow him to ruin yours and the kids' lives.
Can you and the kids go somewhere else for the next few days and leave him to it?