Verge on breaking up on xmas eve

[RoxyLady]

i have a 10 minth old baby who wakes 3 - 4 times a night, recently ever 20 mins as she has a urine infection, i work fulltime 4 days a week, im doing a college course and im running a household.
My partner works full time with alot of outside hpurs but never helps with the baby at night and only helps around the house every now and again

Im so tired. I havent had a full nights sleep since i was 6 months pregnant and i always feel like im running off 5% battery. When i tell my oh this he chastises me sayinh other women cope. Why cant i. Why am i moanimg and this morning we had a massive row. He says ive got nothing about me and im pathetic compared to other women.
3 weeks after i had our baby i found out he was kissing another girl at work and speaking very inappropriately togethrr. At the time i didmt say anything as i had a newborn to look aftrr but recently i confronted him about it and he just brushes it off. Hasnt even apologised.
I feel like im going mad. I dont think i love him anymore.

You poor thing, sleep deprivation is the pits. My DD now 8 didn't sleep through the night until she was 3. I sympathise. I also ran a business and worked long hours - nightmare. My advice about sleep is to sleep whenever you can, even if it's a snooze, just sitting still and relaxing also help energy levels.
OK now onto this man!!! Who does he think he is? how long have you been together? How does he have these comparisons of 'what a woman should do and be like'. Hang on in there - you will get alot of support on MN. Try and take it easy x

Been together 7 years and have the time he lives in some alternate reality that doesnt exist.
And i guess he sees other women at work do it but he has no idea what goes on behind closed doors.

Roxy it sounds to me like you don't trust him - am I right in assuming this? have you confronted him about your feeling about other women before?
Today and over the next few days you need to focus on you and your little one. Has the doc given you meds for urine infection? Are you spending Christmas with family?

It sounds like you would be better off without him. It's a waste of time and energy trying to make a selfish man love you and treat you properly. Concentrate on you and the baby and ignore the man as much as possible.

He sounds awful and it sound like you would cope better without him. You're already doing everything at home without his support, the only thing you would lose is the insults, doubt and put downs. Sorry you're having to deal with this. :(

He's been unfaithful, he puts you down, he provides no help or support and you don't think you love him, rather unsurprisingly. Why are you staying with this idiot?